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I absolutely love receiving and giving gifts. I probably love giving them more than receiving them. I like to make notes of all the things people I care about point out that they want and surprise them months later, after they've forgotten about it completely. I love doing personalised gifts and...

My interpretation: You are poly. She is not. You wish to continue your relationship with her, but she doesn't want to do poly. Right so far? There's a book you've come across about poly being more natural for women and a woman's sex drive being manipulated by culture and society. You'd like her...

I haven't read this book but I have done a lot of research into evolutionary psychology recently for my course. The majority (or at least a great number) of evolutionary scientists argue, for a plethora of reasons, that monogamy is in fact more unnatural for men. This is mostly based on Trivers'...

I think that if someone says that they don't want to have sex, for any reason, that should be respected. In the mentioned scenarios where there is above waist fondling between the OP and another, the other would have been informed that the OP wasn't going to have sex with them. Therefore if...

I don't think there needs to be sex for a relationship to be fulfilling - virgin or not. I am not a virgin. I have sex with my boyfriend. However, my girlfriend and I, almost never have sex. At first this worried me, not because either felt any less romantic with one another but because sex is...

I'm currently a hinge in a V and admittedly, I have some trouble talking about details of me and my girlfriend P's relationship with my boyfriend. He used to ask a LOT of questions, not because he was insecure or was checking up on me, but because he was so excited for me. I found it a little...

I think you really need to do some soul searching and figure out why you're feeling the way that you're feeling. You ask if it's fair for you to hurt to stop her from hurting? As far as I can tell, the wife has made all of the compromises whilst (apart from the initial moving there) you don't...

It happens, I don't think that there's anything wrong with how you do relationships, in a way I kind of admire it. However, every relationship is different and has different needs, so it only makes sense that every one is going to function differently. Also, I retract my adult comment...

I just realised, that in America (or at least a fair amount of it), that saying wouldn't actually apply to me. By US standards I'm not quite an adult yet. :P I retract my previous statement, not ALL relationships are about compromise, but most are. When most people are in long term...

General update: She decided not to meet up. Despite being the one that asked us if we'd talk to here, she now says that we have nothing to talk about. *shrugs* I'm mostly relieved about this and I think my boyfriend is too - there was a lot of messing around and at least that's over. Marcus...

Thanks for the replies :) Galagirl: The meeting has been rescheduled for Thursday due to being busy. I'd feel more comfortable if I went along. That way I know exactly what's going on, without having to hear it second hand. She said she wanted to talk to both of us together anyway. As for the...

Background: I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years now, been living together about 8 months. When we first got together, he stated that he was not comfortable in monogamous relationships, I knew that I would have some difficulty with this but also was aware, that if given the right support...

Now this is your most ridiculous point yet. So, you go on a date, you find out something that makes the two of you incompatible, despite the fact that your date likes you. Then what? Are you suggesting you should then stop talking to them immediately? Stop being friendly and enjoying a nice...

It's quite an interesting question. I myself, have some mental health issues. I've been suffering from depression and anxiety since I was 12. I've always been terrified of this being a deal breaker for someone I love. I used to be so certain that if they saw how I was, then they'd break up with...

I don't think it's necessary to reveal being trans on a first date. The reason being that there are lots of reasons that people wouldn't want to get romantically involved with people, some of these reasons are assigned sex or a person's gender, some of these are things like mental health...

I have to say, I also completely disagree that monogamy is 'claptrap' or entirely about ownership. Me and my primary were talking about this today, in a way. He asked if I'd ever 'go back' to monogamy if I weren't with my current partners. And was quite incredulous when I said yes. I could be...

I think any 'occasion' is what you want it to be. I'm not Christian but I celebrate Christmas for what it means to me. If you always celebrated and enjoyed celebrating Valentine's day before, I suggest you continue. Not everything needs to change because you're poly, if you like it...

Have you tried using toys? Personally, I'm damn near impossible to finish off from sex alone, and the toys really help. Sometimes it's a matter of association, as well. If you largely associate your boyfriend with pleasure, you're going to get turned on by him. It sounds like you don't...

Just got to cuddle up and watch Tv with both my partners simultaneously for the first time. *squee* :D

I agree with this. I think it's less about the labels of primary and secondary and more about wanting to start off on equal footing. If you've been mono you're whole life and then suddenly enter a relationship were the other is poly it can be quite a lot to adjust to. When I first got with my...