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My very first message on OK Cupid went like this (I deleted it, apparently, so it'll have to be from memory): Them: You look really lovely. Me: Thanks! That's really nice of you to say! Them: Well you do! Do you mind if I ask you something personal? Me: Not at all, ask away! (At this point...

I use Josie all over the place as a username. It's my alias. Sometimes I use my mother's maiden name as well. Josie is my middle name and I've always really liked it. To be honest, I wouldn't mind if people just started calling me Josie in real life. Although, it was originally a toss up...

ME TOO! When I was 14, Tohru was my idol. Whenever I felt down I had a 'make me happy' routine. I would put on a poncho, grab a juicy apple and watch Fruits Basket for hours on end. That anime got me through a lot of bad times.

This is actually a question I'm quite good at. I suppose people have always pointed out (not always nicely) the things that are different about me, I wonder how many I can come up with? Here goes: - I have curly eyebrows. It's annoying, I went to get them waxed once and the beautician actually...

I've been a poly relationship for almost 2 years now. It's my first one and I was very sceptical about it at first but my boyfriend was very patient with me and I've learnt to love my relationship(s). As of about 2 months ago, two wonderful things happened to me: 1) I moved in with my...

I've been reading posts on here for coming up to a year now and there's something that keeps confusing me. So many people's posts include some sort of I'm bi so it only makes sense that I'm poly, or a partner explains that they only just found out that their partner is poly but they shoud've...

I don't think wanting a text is unusual at all. It all depends on how you go about it. Personally, I could never do 24 hours strict silence, it would feel weird. There are plenty of times that me and one of my partners don't text for days but I couldn't deal with having it restricted. But then...

As someone very close to many people on the spectrum I would say that accomadating is a two way street. NT's need to try a heck of a lot harder to accomodate people on the spectrum. This means understand and accept what their doing/feeling/thinking and not put them down for it. However, I think...

In many ways, I can empathise with your boyfriend. The being able to deal with lust but not love was a situation I was in at the start of my polyship. I would suggest giving him time. Don't let it go, still mention it but don't push too hard. Let him know this is something that you feel you...

I agree with the posts above. Her being jealous is not a sign of hate, it's a sign of worry and insecurity. It's likely that if she meets you, she will realise that you're another human being just like her, rather than whatever image she has in her head, and it will help her feel more secure...

mesalenalas: Thanks so much for starting this thread! I'm a bit like you in the way that I get a bit insecure about my lack of compersion and it's really nice to hear from people that doesn't mean eventual death of said relationship or that I'm doing this wrong. It had been a little niggle in...

Thanks very much for the advice! I think in the end, rationally, I know that I am loved and atrractive to my partner and that it shouldn't really matter if other people are 'more' attractive. I think I just needed a chance to be told that. No matter how many times you tell yourself something, I...

Bah! I've just had a big emotional chat message off with my partner out of nowhere, all becuase of attractiveness. We were talking about a week ago about people we've found attractive and he started talking about women that are in a different league to others, women who pretty much all would...

This is what really stands out for me, especially alongside your feelings about her being more sexually *healthy* as you put it. You say that their physical relationship, when you're around, is what causes a lot of your discomfort. And it sounds like your discomfort understandably causes...

I really like this way of thinking and I think a lot of more mono-wired people would perhaps be better at accepting poly if it were expressed this way. A lot of mono people seem to think that having another lover is a NEED and so they are not enough. Whilst the real NEED is to simply be able to...

It's an interesting question that I believe has many answers. You use homosexuality as an example of something innate but I think that polyamory, like homosexuality can often be on a scale. Some people are 100% gay or straight whilst there are also many bisexuals out there at 50%, 70% or 30%...

I totally get this! When my boyfriend 1st suggested a poly relationship, I was more worried about ME dating than I was about him dating other people. It's fine once you get properly into the 'real relationship' but before then neither parties really act themself. I spend all my time, like you...

Funny you should mention that actually, as he is moving quite far away, unforunately, in a month I'm moving closer to him and he wants to come visit -ugh. Although if he did visit and try anything like that again, I'm pretty sure my boyfriend would comply with the above suggestions and smack him...

I guess this is more of an angsty/disgusted announcement than anything else really: I was on a night out tonight and was explaining my relationship and what it entailed to friend at the pub. One of our friends next to us overheard and was very impressed by the idea of a woman who was okay with...

From your posts I've gathered that you're not sure how you can have all that is expected in monogamous relationships (moving in together, having kids, getting married, growing old, moving geographical location together) in a poly relationship. (Am I right?) I can definately relate to these...