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Thank you so much for the meditation Satisfiction, I love it!

@derbylicious, I really agree with you about sitting with things and mulling them over. I'm the same way. And I communicate much better in writing usually too. @mono I don't think that not talking about the emotions you are feeling is surpressing them - supressing them to me would be trying to...

In my experience, having multiple partners, or being with someone who does, tends to bring up a lot of intense emotions. Heck, relationships do, period. Jealousy, guilt, sadness, manic euphoria of NRE - coping with all these can be really difficult. I'm curious how people manage their...

Wow. I am blown away too. For different reasons that rolypoly's likely. I feel compelled to comment on a few things. redpepper wrote: "I am at a weird transition with him in that I am not sure of my role in his life." I can understand how this is unsettling for you. A lot has happened, and...

Thanks for sharing, rolypoly. Understandably there must be a lot for you to think about, and I'm grateful that so many smart and thoughful people are on here to participate in this discussion with you. I can especially understand how big the question of children and family you are grappling with...

Thanks so much everyone for your wishes! I had a great day, surrounded by friends and family.

While I was describing "ideal," I think it also would be "healthy."

For me, the "total responsibility" within a relationship is 100% X the number of people in that relationship. Two people = 200% responsibility. Three, 300%.

I agree. My ideal is that positive energy flows both ways, not just from one to the other. I don't want people giving because they feel forced or coerced to do so. I want it to be from the heart. "Give and give." No, I don't think it would be a virtue. I don't think one sided relationships are...

I think this is a complicated, grey area. redpepper and I took (a second time) a parenting course a while back. One of the concept taught is the idea of classifying problems/issues/people's actions into 2 categories, and approaching these two kinds of issues separately. I think the same...

Many people have commented on their ideal structures. In my case, I'll put my thoughts more towards the interpersonal dynamics between the people in the relationships. Amongst other things, some aspects that I think would be present in my ideal intimate relationships are: - Positive energy is...

I can really relate to this. The last time I fell in love, it was hard and fast. I don't think it's necessarily the person, it's just part of who I am. The intense emotions that I experienced during NRE, while lovely, were also difficult to manage. It affected my routines, including my sleep...

For those who may not know it, Mono's and redpepper's 1 year anniversary has arrived. I would like to take a moment to acknowledge their relationship, congratulate them on this milestone, and offer my love as redpepper's husband. 2009 was an incredible, fun, challenging, sad, happy, radical and...