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How old are you, your husband, and the girlfriend? How long have you been with/married to your husband?

It sounds like everything has been handled fine now and is resolved. Your son must have been worried you were cheating on his mom. He must have felt burdened by that knowledge until he talked to his mom. I think we tend to forget that when we are not "out" about ENM with (teenage) kids, they...

I do think these things are related to the age difference. I can understand why a 19 year old girl going to a hotel with a married 38 year old guy might feel like it connotes the idea of a "hooker" and makes her uncomfortable. It probably wouldn't be an issue for a woman in her 30s, or if...

Who has the chronic illness? (i.e., who is often out of commission/in pain/struggling physically/needing reliable help from a partner)

Did you know she was poly when you got together with her? How long have you been together? How long has she been poly dating?

Hi KittyRae, How old are you? How recent was your diagnosis and your realization that you're poly? Are these people that you are meeting in real life, or online? Are you meeting them through online dating, or somewhere else?

I think this is the girl who is a 19-year-old undergraduate, as described in Steve's other post :)

Would you happier if the guy were objectively super hot, smart, rich, successful, funny, interesting? You wouldn't feel jealous/threatened? What if he were super sexy but seemed like an asshole? What if he were completely similar to you, almost like a clone of you? In that case, would you feel...

Here are my thoughts, in no particular order: ENM involves rethinking relationships, a totally new paradigm, in which being at different life stages and different ages doesn't matter as much as it would with monogamy Maybe a 20-ish-year-old seeking something casual would be a better match for...

This sounds a little too troll-ish to be real, but in the spirit of generosity, let's say it is. So, you're saying you want to father 10 to 12 children yourself? With at least one to two women, who all live together and share the work? That's a lot of kids, so, kind of a lot of work. Will the...

What is your wife like apart from all this? As a person overall, as a partner, mother, colleague, friend...would you say she is emotionally healthy, happy, successful at navigating work relationships and friendships? Are your kids happy and doing well and getting along fine with her? Because...

How old is everyone? How long has everyone been poly? The problem here is the hinge. The Hinge has an insecure, jealous partner who deliberately was all over Hinge on the first meeting with a metamour (you) and THEN, instead of apologizing to you for making you uncomfortable, Hinge complains...

Thanks for the update. I am glad your relationship is still going well and you seem more used to the new situation now. I'll second Evie's advice that maybe there is a kink you'd like to be able to explore with your wife? Or maybe you'd be happier knowing fewer details of the scenes she does...

I am sorry to hear about Jay. It sounds like it would have been a lot of trouble navigating his monogamous mindset even without the narcissism. I'm glad you're doing well on your own. Good luck with your continued journey!

I'm sorry your work contract was not renewed. I think you'd be very good at poly/kink counseling. You give great advice here! Good luck as you find a new path forward.

I don't agree that polyamory is necessarily wrong for you. It sounds like the philosophy of poly relationships inherently makes sense to you, and that you feel you benefit from your queer platonic relationship. You were initially happy and supportive of you and your wife becoming poly. I don't...

How does Jess (your wife) feel about being more open about it? She's the one who has the right to decide how to present her marriage to her own parents (your in-laws). Just from reading your blog, I have the sense you want to proclaim your love for Dawn from the rooftops. You feel like you are...

They're not going to "get back together" for long, though, either.

I'm not sure what kind of advice I could give you because I'm not sure what you're asking, because everything you describe sounds... fine? Happy, even? It sounds like you're in a happy poly relationship with your wife, and she has a good relationship with her semi-long-distance boyfriend Simon...

I'm so glad it took MUCH less than 6 months for this relationship to blow up! Give your wife some grace. I think her behavior has largely been the result of this guy being weird right from the beginning. She didn't know how to handle it and now she probably needs time to process everything.