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Wow, your ex-best friend. "You are safe from my boyfriend because he doesn't remember your address." Holy hell. :mad:

Just a thought, in case this is helpful: I have spent over a decade in a poly relationship where I never had the energy or inclination to date others. My partner was "enough" for me in terms of sex, love, affection, fun, emotional support, etc. He always had other partners of his own, which...

Thank you, Bluebird, for continuing to post updates during this stressful time. My own fibroid situation that I described--mine were huge like yours, but indeed had grown slowly, like over 10 years.

It sounds like you need the surgery as soon as possible. Would it make sense to stay on DarkKnight's insurance and figure out a way to pay the deductible, rather than go through the hoops of divorce and remarriage? After all, if DarkKnight needs any medical procedures later this year, then the...

I'm not sure what the physical dimensions of my uterus were...like you, I had a grape-fruit sized fibroid and a bunch of smaller fibroids. My uterus, when removed, weighed almost 5 lbs. A normal uterus weighs less than one-fourth of a pound. My abdominal scar is almost 8 inches long...that was...

I have no problem posting about my hysterectomy...it was a total hysterectomy. Removed the whole uterus plus the cervix and the Fallopian tubes. My ovaries remain in me, doing their thing. My uterus was too gigantic to remove laproscopically or vaginally, so it was taken out with full abdominal...

My fibroid uterus was successfully removed last year...very much like yours, it was just FULL of fibroids, including one giant one. It/they were pressing on my organs, especially my bladder, causing me to need to pee every hour like a pregnant lady. My uterus weighed almost 5 lbs when it was...

Is the new person far away? Is that why your wife can't be both with the new person and physically in your house with you? Is there a set date for when she is returning? She has to balance her time with both her partners if she wants to be successfully poly and keep her relationship with you.

I've been catching up on the forum and just read this now... Pixie, this isn't okay. You sound like a very kind and thoughtful person. You deserve better than this. He was severely and deliberately lying to you, pretending to be exes with his wife when they were still together. Was his wife in...

I'm confused about who Kate is. Is she dating Biff, as well as being married to your other partner Steve, so she's your metamour twice over? Why was there so much drama about you meeting her? To me, it sounds like Tiffany's age isn't really the issue, it's that Biff's communication about her...

Do you dislike sex in positions where you are not face to face / having eye contact? Is sex for you mostly about emotional connection? People who enjoy threesomes usually find it erotic to watch people (or at least watch the people they like/love) doing sexual things to each other. That's part...

Question or thought experiment for the OP (StrawberryMoon): Regarding the "specialness" of thinking only of one sex partner when you're with them sexually. Plenty of people who are in relationships (whether mono or poly) still masturbate on their own, look at porn, read erotica, etc. Do...

CONGRATULATIONS!!

I had an ultrasound of my thyroid a few years ago (checking on a nodule that my doctor had felt and wanted to check if it was cancer) and the tech got awful quiet and somber. I could tell she saw something and she's not allowed to diagnose. Man, it sucked. It turned out to be a benign thyroid...

PolyQ, you have done a great job being sympathetic toward your metamour and being patient. But a whole year of you not being allowed to touch your boyfriend at all goes way beyond what is reasonable to accept, even in hierarchical poly! If you were NewMom's partner (as in your hypothetical...

And was that without any metamours in the mix either? No metamour also living there? Were there any important non-living-together relationships for you or your partner, and if so, were they impacted by you and your partner moving in together so quickly?

I think poly relationships will be really difficult for you if you feel that even the most minor agreements between Pisces and Blue are rules that are "imposed on you." If they've decided that talking on the phone every three days is what works for them, that's not something that's "imposed on...

I am not a doctor, but a quick google search says that endometrial hyperplasia is not cancer, but may be precancerous. Don't panic yet! Sounds like it could be treated with progesterone therapy or a hysterectomy. I was very, very scared to have my hysterectomy last year (for uterine fibroids)...

Actually the whole thread has cute happy poly stories. Not I want to encourage anyone to read Reddit.

Saw this post on r/polyamory and had to share because it's so cute. (Not my current poly life, alas!) But it's so sweet. Just want to say that I've been in a poly relationship for 9 years and it's been very healthy, normal, and boring. I think part of the reason polyamory has such a bad rep is...