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Your English is very good, by the way! You are totally in the right, and you are not doing anything unreasonable. I understand why you're so hurt. BUT I actually think you should regard this as a temporary situation that will resolve itself soon enough if you do your best to ignore it as much...

My first thought for you: Giving your partner the freedom of an open marriage sounds totally fine to me. But if you want to do that, you have to figure out a way to become okay with them having sex with others. That could be as simple as you accepting the emotional discomfort, sitting with it...

You may want to put more serious effort into your relationship with Jess. The gifts are just a symbol; Jess is asking for as much time and attention and appreciation as you devote to Dawn (or at least more than Jess is getting now). It's not about money or spending. Spend some time "dating"...

Actually, Tinwen, your partner sounds very similar in many ways to my ex Eli. That's what I came here to say. I totally get what you mean about having a relationship that people in your life were always skeptical about, and that no one's advice fits your situation. I loved Eli deeply for 12...

I actually get what Tinwen means here, and I just added a comment to Rachelina's thread with a slightly different slant than the previous advice. I've definitely felt like I am seeing more threads where it seems like the people involved should definitely break up. I have found myself giving...

Hi Rachelina, When I read your first post on this thread, my first thought was that maybe you were having a mental health issue rather than that you should consider leaving your husband. You described yourself as previously happy in a mono/poly marriage and having a good relationship with your...

An important thing about poly dating is that sometimes people get distracted by the poly part of it and miss the fact that the relationship is just not working. Maybe you and she just don't click. If you were dating a monogamous woman for a few months and felt she'd been distant from you the...

In theory, it might work no differently than families where someone has a child with their ex. The biological parents live in separate households, the child either lives with one parent or moves between both households (with or without stepparents/step-/half-siblings in either household). Except...

Just one quick thing on your terminology, since you said you weren't sure if you were using the right terms. "Triad" means three people all dating/having sex with each other. What you are seeking is a "Vee" arrangement where you would be in a relationship with your wife and in a separate...

The term "one-penis policy" (OPP) wasn't intended to describe situations like yours. It was coined to make fun of men who date multiple women while demanding that those women aren't allowed to date other men (although they can have sex with other women/each other). It's a term meant to mock...

Something to think about: The woman you connected with in the bar is probably NOT polyamorous. Most of the women who flirt with you in the bar are probably NOT polyamorous. Most people (in our current world) are monogamous and looking for a monogamous relationship. Some people might be willing...

Oh, well. Now I have read your past post, in which I was one of the people who advised you to break up with Emma. Emma previously had a problem with violating people's consent during sex, including your own. Has she reckoned with that behavior? Have you? It sounds like Emma has made an effort...

Well, if everybody is happy and behaving in emotionally healthy ways now, then there is no problem now. Although I would think very carefully about all of you living together in one big house. Wouldn't it inhibit your sex life with Emma to share a house with June and Kiddo? Might June not...

Oh, that's funny! I don't thinking of it that way. I think of it as, "You can only date One Vagina/Penis, which is mine!" Rather than, "There can be only One Vagina/Penis in the Polycule!" :ROFLMAO:

I think if he's assuming that any woman you date ought to be willing to fuck him too, and that you'll be required to dump a girlfriend who likes you but who's not into him, then that does indeed sound misogynistic, because it is not giving women (either you or anyone you date) a lot of agency to...

Regarding the issue with your friends not being supportive of non-monogamy, I hear you. That's a common problem for non-monogamous people. We wouldn't need forums like this if we could get helpful advice from our friends! It's not just a matter of finding better friends or more...

When she said she can't be away from her boys, I was assuming kids under 8 or so. Teenagers don't need their mom home every night. It's okay to break up with her and find someone who is excited to spend a night in a hotel or so.

You say your "bunch" of kids can be handful...does that mean you have more than 2 children under age 7?

This is a lot. I'm sorry you are going through this. However, this situation has occurred because you and Shaun have spent decades enabling Kelly's drinking. This situation isn't particularly complex when framed that way. Kelly is an alcoholic and she has needed help since at least 2009. You...

OMG. I missed this when it first came out. Thanks for sharing! :ROFLMAO: