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I am sorry you are experiencing this. Can I ask how old everyone is? This sounds like drama that shouldn't be occurring if everyone is over age 22. Unfortunately, I agree with others that the problem here is Flame. Storm is gonna be Storm wherever she goes--manipulative, desperate, possessive...

I'm sorry you're going through this and have had such a difficult time lately. You don't mention at all how Apple feels about you wanting to date his sister. Are you and Apple in a poly relationship? How much experience do you have with poly dating? Have you dated women before, or have you...

So, I get it. You feel your husband encouraged you to be poly, even perhaps pushed you into it when you were doubtful. He encouraged you to date his best friend, even though you all were already getting a house together and you had doubts it was a good idea. He reassured you that everything was...

Cont'd again from above. I am, again, sorry about all this, and I do understand where you're coming from in feeling betrayed by your husband's posts here. If it helps, here's my story: When I was in my 20s, I had a long-distance boyfriend named David who I had met through our shared mutual...

Continued from above... But, I am puzzled about the wide gaps between how you describe things and how your husband describes things. And how wildly different your first post was from this one, and even how different your husband's first thread was from his second. There's context, and then...

Oh, gosh. I hope you will be back to read this because I think you misinterpreted our intent here. I have pondered how to respond to this and I am sorry that my comments in your husband's thread contributed to this. I don't think you're a villain, and I don't think that's what anyone else was...

It seems weird to me that he's professing his love and devotion to you after only two dates. Do things normally move that fast for you in monogamous dating? Even with NRE (the excitement of dating a new person), it seems very fast. You two don't actually know each other well enough yet to know...

I assume LAT is "living apart together"...which is actually what I identify with and is my most ideal relationship model! I am childless by choice, but it LAT makes a lot of sense for a single parent too. As a poly person, I found the label "solo poly" helpful for a long time, as it focuses on...

Tyler sounds very needy and like he manages to make his problems YOUR problems. Instead of owning his own feelings, adjusting his expectations, focusing more energy on poly dating other people, etc.

If possible, you should consider having a wall light behind the bed over the middle of the bed, so the person sleeping in the middle has a reading light (if they read in bed) and can also reach a light switch if they wake in the night. Or a shelf behind the bed so the middle person can put...

My first thought is that the spark of passion in a long-established couple can wax and wane over time, especially if you currently have a young kid. You and your wife might get the spark back at a future time. But probably not until she's out of the NRE phase with her boyfriend, unfortunately...

I'm sorry that you are going through this, and for losing your mom too. Your feelings make sense, about everything. Have you looked into grief therapy? Or a support group for family members of people who died by suicide? I'm sure you're not alone in your anger.

I see a lot of posts here where both/all people in the situation have legitimate points of view. This isn't one of them. Tyler's hang-up around "firsts" for plane rides and train rides is ridiculous. Unless you're flying the plane, riding in a commercial airline has nothing to do with aviation...

That makes sense, dingedheart. Thanks for replying!

I don't like dating people who tell me that my feelings are "irrational."

Hi Dreams, I just wanted to say, from reading your post, that you sound like a pretty awesome person-- thoughtful, kind, empathetic, and willing to do hard emotional work and to let Water be happy the way she wants to be. The fact that you are so empathetic about recognizing the monogamous...

In contrast to everyone else's advice so far, I wonder if you could simply accept the limitations on this relationship and decide to not let it bother you. Apply the "free-flowing" energy you have with your spouse to this connection. He's got commitments to his wife and he wants to respect her...

Hi dingedheart, One thing I wanted to say, but was hesitating to do, because it might derail this thread in a different direction: when you asked ninjin if she reported her date rape, that might have come across as an off-putting judgmental question. There are so many, many reasons why a woman...

I thought ninjin made some really good points and I was looking forward to hearing more from her. This paragraph in particular made me laugh out loud: I have definitely been on a date with a white dude who has a didgeridoo, and my ex and all his poly friends were into weird circus arts, and...

I am sorry this happened to you. They both sound very cruel and irresponsible. This isn't specifically a poly issue. If you had moved to join a monogamous person in a mono relationship, and he kicked you out while you were in the hospital, that would also be terrible and would leave you in the...