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OP, I could have written your post. I'm here to support you. I get it.

Partner and I have been seeing each other for 6 weeks now. It feels like much longer. I guess when you are a mature adult and know what you want, and you both find each other, you don't need to play the dating games. You just dive right in and love each other. The NRE has mostly worn off and...

Trigger warning-- some heavy stuff here--- When I reflect back on my experience with this couple, I remember many great things. The love! When it was good, it was so good. I loved the cuddling we all did together, the laughing, the family dinners. But I think the man took some great pleasure in...

So continued with this couple--- They were well-established members of this "self help" type group. They met at a party, introduced by mutual friends. He was in an open marriage, she was divorced and single. She was never poly and maintained that to the end. But, he very much was. And she...

So this couple---- I had started on a path of personal growth about a year before the divorce. I had started to attend different meetings and workshops, and one of them was a tightly knit group of people, but their events were open to the public. There was this couple there, they were known to...

Long story short about the marriage-- before we had kids, we did open up the marriage for a short time. I found out I'm not lesbian, but I enjoyed the poly aspect of a relationship. But after we started trying for kids, we closed off the marriage. So, while I was pregnant with kid#1, ex began to...

Now about that horrible relationship. It was a beautiful thing, too beautiful, too good to be true. And then it was awful. I can't believe I allowed myself to be in that situation for as long as I did . . . but as I said, a person with CPTSD will love you to the ends of the earth, oftentimes to...

I want to thank the administrators for providing this space to journal and blog. It's very healing. Please feel free to message me if you read something interesting or something you want to talk about with me. I'm always looking to make new friends...

As I just passed a very significant birthday, I've been reflecting on my life, lessons learned, mistakes and joys. The years are like journals lined up on a shelf. Some are more worn than others, some are fat, some are thin, some are leather bound, some are black and white student composition...

The jealousy comes more from, I think, shared affection and love more than sex. If you both agree that sex with another is okay, that part is easy. The time, attention, love, and new relationship energy are all possible areas of jealousy. These need to be talked about openly in the beginning...

I thought this would be a fun thread--- I decided to start this thread because husband did something he doesn't like to do-- but he knows it's important to me. It starts my day off right. First item below-- -- A clean kitchen sink in the morning -- Fresh bedsheets -- A fresh clean body--...

That is correct. The home was mine. I would have both my former poly partner over and my boyfriend-now-Spouse over. Then the poly relationship ended. Then Spouse moved into my home for convenience. Then we decided to have a baby. It was not the appropriate time to seek another poly partner at...

Good questions! Spouse is safe. His mental health episodes were not violent. They were emotionally abusive. He is now stable, medicated, doing therapy and making a sincere effort to stay on track. He wants to stay on track for his own sake and that of his child, parents, and family. I don't feel...

By the way--- I need to contact the admins about this-- I created a user name Follow the Sun and then that one didn't seem to work out, so I created another one (this one). I'm the same person. I need to delete or merge those!

Hmm I think I'll have to stick to my position that I can bring friends into the home as long as they are not bad/unsafe characters for our child. My partner is not just a lover-- they are also a friend. We won't be having sex on the couch. ;-)

It was "for the forseeable future" not forever necessarily. Spouse knew I was poly, had been poly in my past marriage, and might be poly again. We agreed that we would be mono during the pregnancy/baby stage and then it was a "wait and see" if I remained mono. Full disclosure was given before...

I'm glad for the questions. It makes me think and explore my own intentions and thoughts. I don't think it's a demotion at all. Spouse and I wear matching wedding rings, share a home and a child and a life together. We started rebuilding the romantic side about a year ago, went through marriage...

Child at home is 3. My older children have grown and flown. We are a very open minded household, both my older kids have alternative sexual and gender identities. We are open about health, sex (as age appropriate), and alternative non-traditional relationships. We attend a church that is also...

Absolutely do not believe in punishment or tit for tat. I'm a very fair and ethical person, always have open communication. I was light poly in my first marriage as well, both before and after kids. This is my natural inclination. Pandemic, stress, and a baby/toddler kinda put the damper on any...

I consider health reasons to not be a matter of rules or hierarchy, but of safety and health. That supersedes talk of rules about what kind of partners are chosen. Take mask-wearing--- this was heavily debated during the pandemic, and still is to some extent. The debate turned into a political...