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I haven't read a relevant interview or heard either of them talking about non-monogamy but I doubt they wanted to be, or wanted to be seen to be, celebrity ambassadors of ENM/poly. I gather they've been candid about their relationship struggles rather than presenting an idyllic PR controlled...

I feel for you. That is a sad situation. If she still wants to be friends but you're not sure you want that, would waiting a while be ok? (And telling her you're doing that?) Things change with time, can bring forgiveness and acceptance or reveal other aspects to this you can't see now. "At...

With the exception of owning crystals that list is spot on for my household! Oh, I'm certainly laughing about it and I do like Jefferson Airplane. I'm not offended if people see me as a hippie. I don't dress or speak in a way that is associated with hippies but my lifestyle and worldview are...

It seems to some people polyamory = hippies. Recently I was telling some middle-aged white male monogamous friends who live largely conventional lives about my previous experiences in the city as a poly person. They know I identify as polyamorous but it rarely ever comes up when we chat. At one...

The ideas and concepts of polyamory weren’t something I was aware of until I was in my late 20s. I’d been happily non-monogamous since before high school for the most part, two monogamish relationships notwithstanding. When I came across polyamory and the popular ideas around it online I...

By this definition it would be rare for someone *not* to be spiritual. Most would not argue, for example, that they weren't part of some greater collective of beings or being-ness. There should be a word for this in general, because so many people fit that description. The closest I can think...

More of what you're already doing. Keep loving them, keep talking and keep trying. Also, try to be compassionate about your own weaknesses without excusing them. Nobody's perfect. Something I've found helpful in the past is playing out a situation ahead of time in my imagination then being...

Nothing new to add except general agreement with the sentiments here. I think I would kindly and politely ask to go for a walk or otherwise sit out such arguments because they aren't about me, even if my presence heightens the tension somehow. Its between them until its clearly not, i.e. they...

So, there *is* a trend of higher than normal openness so far. Results from me and my partners:- O: 94% C: 42% E: 73% A: 85% N: 37.5% O: 94% C: 31% E: 71% A: 54% N: 77% O: 96% C: 46% E: 56% A: 94% N: 68% Open-mindedness and being firmly atheist are not necessarily contradictory. You may...

Something I am always wondering about is whether polyamorous folk I know have qualities that stand out as common among them compared to monogamous folk. Openness is the obvious personality trait that comes to mind. It does seem that polyamorous people have greater openness than most. That could...

“Its happening so fast” is a very common feeling when a partner is first interested in someone else, especially if a relationship starts off with as just two people involved and/or poly is a relatively new thing. At the same time that you’re struggling to examine and process arising strong...

Although you started off as FWB, in simplistic terms it sounds like you have a monogamous heart and she has a polyamorous heart. You can make compromises out of romantic devotion but it will store up problems. Resentment may be among them. Please consider letting go now that the two year...

Thanks for those links to previous discussions and your personal account AlwaysGrowing. Never wanted kids in the past for a couple of reasons and still don't due to the Climate Catastrophe and related worries, but if it happened I would feel more confident any children we have could be well...

I'm curious about people's experiences raising children in polyamorous relationships. I don't know if many people here have kids but I'd appreciate some discussion, even if its just observation and insights from seeing other polyamorous parents.

Bit of a mess! AITA is a bit like a tabloid chat show with no host, so that doesn't make things less messy. While the ex-wife was naive to think posting to a FB poly group would be safe the ex-husband must've wanted some revenge drama to share his story at a place like that. Wonderful! Have to...

I like that. There does seem to be some sort of scale to how polyamorous someone is, which may be down to a balance of factors like attachment style, prior experience, outlook, parental upbringing, etc. I know I am very comfortable with polyamorous arrangements. My nesting partner is probably...

Thank you! :) Things really did work out for the best, for everyone, I think. Before my significant relationship with my ex-wife I believed that, being poly, I was compatible with monogamy as well as polyamory. That was not the case. I was never properly myself in monogamous relationships. I...

Discrepancy in how many dating partners you're getting compared to your girlfriend could be for all sorts of reasons. I found that making online dating profiles as authentic as I could while also highly expressive of who I was helped a whole lot in not just attracting potential partners but...

Hi I joined this forum about seven years ago, wrote a few posts and then drifted away. Back then I was struggling with a monogamous relationship that was potentially opening up. Well, that got weird. My (now ex) wife was building up the start of her first major bipolar episode. I didn't...

Your partner doesn't like the idea of you cheating, but would understand so that suggests there is some kind of acceptance and flexibility there. You don't want to hurt your partner so you need their consent and willingness for your friend to be a love interest. So, it all kind of hinges on...