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Kerowax, what happened with your partner having a sexual relationship online, well I put my wife through something similar some time back. I became involved in adult roleplaying on kink sites and similar. One difference is I asked my wife if I could do it beforehand and she agreed. Keeping it...

Thanks for all the greets/replies. :) That rating thing, I asked why I got it sort of hoping that the person who rated would let me know, because I don't like the idea of annoying someone without knowing why. :D I guess that would defeat the purpose of anonymous voting though, so its all good...

Oh yeh, definitely highly self critical. We both have lots to work on. :)

I have no idea if its necessary for your wife and girlfriend to be friends for things to work. My experience is so limited. I know that the two times prior I've been in poly relationships they began with everyone being close friends, living together or all very close by, then partnering up, then...

My sympathies. :( Do you think you could find some to cope with trying? You might fail, or just partially succeed, but you'll both know you tried. That matters.

Sorry your having a difficult time. I can see why people keep saying it would be good if DOOD and you would bond. Nice in theory. If your feelings about him started off rocky and haven't changed when you've reflected on the situation, well, that's such a tough place to stuck in. If you're stuck...

Yeh, a statement like that can be great while things are starting because it helps define everything. Later I imagine it could seem like a sudden and harsh ultimatum, which it doesn't necessarily have to be. You wrote earlier that you are struggling to accept yourself as poly. Have you been...

Thanks for your kind words, Wanderer. Yes, I'd love her to be poly too, and yes, it may never happen. Yes also, she might ask me to accept that at some point. She can do that and I would have to give up. Its not that time, yet. Nonetheless I feel the need to prepare myself for that possibility...

Yes. I'll take the need for clear, concise answers into consideration. Not a bad guess. Communication is a difficulty she has in some respects but it is not something that undermines her confidence. Primarily what undermines her confidence, what gives her that performance anxiety I mentioned...

Oh, I got a "bad" rating for this thread. Would really appreciate knowing why. :)

Well, she consented to sex with D but expected something slow and exploratory. D was completely unlike she imagined. They didn't discuss anything at all and she didn't see it coming until D was very worked up and pleading to sleep with her. Performance anxiety is also a deep set issue for her...

Must have been frustrating to have to walk away from that last relationship. Like you say though, not all that bad if you at least know for sure what you want now. Really hope you find someone amazing. :)

You feel what you feel. Seems a little disappointing that people who would cherish compersion wouldn't also cherish a little more compassion for you. Incidentally, never heard of compersion until now. I definitely get that. I also feel uber-friendly to any guy/girl who makes a partner or ex...

Wow, yes, I bet that can be tough on the heartstrings. You must have a big heart. :)

Huh, GalaGirl yes you are so right. I'm bummed out right now. I'm emotionally exhausted and overloaded. It wasn't subdrop. What happened was that she said some stuff that one of the girls, D, took as a sign that she wanted to sleep with her. D got playful, they stripped then D came on very...

That's interesting. Could you imagine telling people up front something like you don't do monogamous relationships, that you can't be possessed or owned (so to speak)?

I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. Wow that's refreshing :) (newb here too) The potential trouble I imagine is how your wife and your gf will relate to each other. You said you had to lie to others that your girlfriend was a close friend of your wife. Is that also true in and of itself?

Hi there! :p I'm joining this place because I've come to a kind of crossroads in my relationship(s) and I need to reflect and adjust. Also I think it could be beneficial to me to see how people here think, because polyamory in lifestyle and perspective is not all that common and consequently I...