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If it were me, I'd rather know ahead of time about anything that is otherwise going to inhibit my partner or make him anxious. If he is anxious about something that can make me less relaxed, and if neither of us says anything about the vibe, it can lead to a not-so-great sexual experience. One...

Y'know, if you enjoy the snuggling, foreplay, and non-penetrative sex that much, you might try just saying so explicitly. A lot of women would get pretty excited about that (not all, but many). I also think the awkwardness and the ED are separable. The more you get comfortable just telling...

Redpepper, your post is so timely for me! I'm involved with two guys (I guess I'm called a 'free agent'). The newer relationship is lovely and also fragile in several ways. He's spending this weekend with another woman and I am gripped with anxiety that I wasn't expecting, so this evening I've...

First, I also recommend OK Cupid. I live in a rural area and found some good guys on there. The site is structured very non-judgmentally. Second I was also struck by the intensity of your guilt. It seems like something you should reflect on and figure out the source of -- otherwise it is liable...

Thank you. As others have said, it's really helpful to be reminded of the temptations and also to see the example of owning your mistakes.

commitment and intimacy Strixish, I very much like your definition of commitment: "We feel loyalty to each other, and an ongoing intention of maintaining and protecting the space we have in each other's lives, and a desire to do some work if needed to take care of each other's needs." I'd add...

Do I have an ideal? I don't know what my ideal is, and part of what I'm valuing right now about being poly is the way it minimizes this question for me. I'm currently seeing two guys, neither of whom I live with. I've been in a relationship with F for just over a year. It started as sexual and...

Hey there. I'm a single straight woman, 47, who for many years was in no relationships; now I'm enjoying being with two really lovely guys. One has long experience with nonmonogamy; for the other, as for me, it's new. I have to say that so far, the poly approach feels like home to me. None of...