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    Division in the poly community

    As a Quaker I would say "my Friend speaks my mind" @River: you share my thoughts on this, as well as sharing my name :)
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    Division in the poly community

    agree with you this far... and here I part from you. The fact that it is a choice does not stop it being an identity. I chose to become a Quaker, but that is now part of my identity. Likewise I more recently chose to identify as poly: the word represents a whole set of choices I have made since...
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    Place of B in GLB: ancient history

    The sceptical feminist - by Janet Radcliffe Richards: in the first post of this thread is a link from the book title to the Amazon page for the book - that link takes you to a phone-sized page: for the full size Amazon page click here or for the googlebooks page click here instead Are you a...
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    Division in the poly community

    In contrast, I am a broody bloke, and in my 50s I want more than ever to live in a big family with lots of kids around, one or two of them mine and lots more kids besides. So is there division between me and nycindie? I hope not, and certainly not from my side. Remember the 3d: diversity...
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    Place of B in GLB: ancient history

    hi BU, Thanks for the reply: my feelings on this are profoundly turbulent; that is a mix of very negative and very positive responses. Your post on the other thread, quoted in my first post here, pushed a lot of buttons for me that I had forgotten I had, unresolved issues. Can I say first that...
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    Omniamory

    link to long OT reply I was around and adult then. It was even more complicated than that, but that is a long post and needs its own thread
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    Omniamory

    And I suggest monoflexible for someone who prefers monoamory, identifies as monoamorous, but is nonetheless willing to consent to a partner's additional relationships. We have many brave examples in the blog forum of people who never wanted polyamory, but are willing to allow it rather than lose...
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    Place of B in GLB: ancient history

    hi, I was around and adult during all that, and it was even more complicated than that. Gay Lib originally included all Gay women and men. Some of the RadFem Lesbians objected to the label Gay as they said it did not apply to them, to be a lesbian was not anywhere near the same as to be a Gay...
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    Omniamory

    >Yuk< - Not only nonvoluntary sex (i.e., with those who can't meaningfully consent, like children) - But also involuntary sex (directly against the clearly expressed wishes of one or more of those involved), i.e., rape - And even getting a thrill out of cheating on an existing partner These...
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    Omniamory

    On the British SF TV series Torchwood (*), omnisexual means open to sex with humans of either gender, or with aliens. This is notable as there is a major character who is biamorous, or omniamorous. (*) Torchwood is a spin off from Doctor Who (and also an anagram).
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    Omniamory

    Polyamory already includes zero and one I agree totally, TP. And I would go further: by saying polyamory MUST mean more than one relationship, we seem to be critical of monoamorists who have chosen, with awareness, to be monoamorous. If we assert that poly includes the ability to accept any...
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    hey justlost, I only just noticed we both joined the forum on the same day. How's that then? I...

    hey justlost, I only just noticed we both joined the forum on the same day. How's that then? I really feel a connection with you and your honest struggle. Keep going, and I will keep upholding you from afar. Love River~~
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    Accidentally Poly - The Karma Story.

    IF ??? At the Word of Mouth story telling club, Manchester, England on August 5th 2011 my first poly fairy story got its first outing, sorry I am not going to tell you the plot as it gets its second outing at Polyday 2011 and I don't want to spoil the ending.... The organiser of Polyday has...
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    one Quaker's view of Polyamory

    The BBC's webpage about Quakers provides a good introduction to British Friends. Please note we are a minority of Quakers worldwide, and some of the details about beliefs and style of worship are different in other parts of the world
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    searching for meaning

    primary/secondary is about committments, not people For me, the labels *are* useful, but with reference to the future not the past, and refer to a primary committment. When I was in a vee shaped relationship with one of a married couple, it was clear to me that they were lifebonded. Not only...
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    searching for meaning

    so throw something then (safely) OK, so you feel like throwing something. It can be surprisingly therapeutic. Get yourself some safety goggles and some used glass bottles, and throw them against the wall outside. Make lots of noise :) Then sweep up :( Or use those unbreakable bowls. Just...
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    searching for meaning

    OT @Karma @Mohegan @Karma @Mohegan Peace and respect to both of you, I like the way you both write, and I like the fact that you write differently to one another. I'd like to read your blogs too, could you post both links in this thread please? Or maybe justLost can post the links. I'll get...
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    searching for meaning

    two kinds of jealousy dear justLost, late on Aug11th (or early on 12th, not sure of your timezone) you wrote this: The relevant fact to me is simple . I love him, I want him to be a happy and complete person in every way that means to him. Or, in my words, you want your beloved to flourish...
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    Religious survey

    Quaker agnostic I am a Quaker agnostic. Not the sort of agnostic who doesn't know (or doesn't care), but the sort of agnostic who finds myself sometimes believing in God and sometimes not. Yet strangely I find that what I desire for myself, my friends, and my planet is the same in both states...
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