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Your post was beautifully worded, and you told me what you would not recommend. What I want to know is what you would recommend.

(Part two) Scott and I talked the entire time he drove to our house. While we talked, Scott talked about the here and now book and wondering why me and Ray felt that we needed therapy. Scott told me that Ray seemed like a really cool guy. I told Scott that the therapy was a lot more for me, as...

(Part one) Shortly after my last post, the one that I posted at 12:19, I got a text from Scott. I haven't talked with or texted with him for a few days now. So, it was really nice to see that it was him texting me. Scott's text read, "I want to be with you right here right now!" When I was...

I agree. I think you are right there. And she does give us both a lot to think about. Ray is the most passive person I have ever met. I don't think that he is the type to want a D/s lifestyle. What I think is that a lot of his thoughts are childlike. I do know that Ray had a couple of...

KC; I had written a long post about yesterday, last night, and this morning, but before I post that, I want to address your and kdt26417's posts. KC, you said, "Margaret might mean that she wants you and Ray to concentrate on what's going on with yourselves and each other at each moment." And I...

(Part Two) Margaret then asked me what about Ray reminded me of my father. I told Margaret that I didn't think Ray reminded me in any way of my father. Margaret asked me which of my brothers or cousins Ray reminded me of. I just shook my head. Margaret then asked who in my life reminded me of...

(Part One) Ray and I went to see Margret, our therapist, for the second time. Margaret asked me and Ray how our week had been. Ray said that it had been a pretty good week. I told Margaret that it had not been such a great week. Margaret asked me why I felt so differently than Ray did about the...

You are not off base with this.I am constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. Everyday I am waiting for something to come up that I didn't know, or that Ray has hidden from me. When Ray works late, I do call him at times to make sure he is at work. It isn't really Ray. I don't trust men in...

I spent a good part of the day with Roy and his wife today. And most of the day we talked about me and Ray. I have known Roy and his wife for the last 28 years or so. They have been great friends to me, and they have goen through a lot with me. When I brought up this forum and what I had...

Thanks. I needed that. :)

I grew up with a mother who hated the fact that my bio mother was crazy and had been put into a mental institution and she had to raise me. My mother, that I grew up with, is my mother's sister. I grew up being abused by my "mother" and my siblings. I knew nothing but abuse for most of my...

I know that some of the things, maybe a lot of things, I say to Ray are abusive. And I am hurt as well as soon as I say them. I tend to go off on Ray a lot, and the thing is that I love him so much. We had a situation last night about him ruining dinner, then Ray over loading the washing...

Ray grew up an only child. He grew up in Inglewood, California, in the 60s and 70s. Ray was the white boy in his neighborhood. And he grew up living behind a topless bar, a nude wrestling place, a massage parlor, an adult arcade and a free clinic. There was a vacant lot next to Ray's house...

Ray does try to get me to mother him and always tell him what to do, but I am not his mother. I am his wife. I did notice tonight, when we took my son to McDonalds, that Ray is a whiner, and does act like a little boy, often. Ray pointed out a small boy who had fallen out of the playland and...

My husband and I have communication problems. as well, but he has never told me that I can't see any of my lovers or BFs. To me it sounds like your hubby is feeling pressured to be a parent. Some people, not just men, get that way. My husband is a whiner. Some times he can act like such a little...

Ray reminded me of the intro he did on Fetlife years ago, and he has allowed me to share it here . . . "I am compersive. For those who do not know, compersion is a feeling of joy when a loved one invests in and takes pleasure from another romantic or sexual relationship. Essentially, compersion...

When I have told Ray about my fear of losing him, I have told him that I could live on my own, because I have done that. It is the fear of all the bills consuming me that scares me the most. I told Ray that if ever left me by choice or other wise, I would have sex with other men, but I wouldn't...

Does Ray get to cum much? Yes. He and I actually have sex often. I don't cum with him, and only have once with him, but we do have sex. Ray never asks for sex, and if I never brought it up, he would never ask and would go without. Because Ray is small small cocked, he doesn't arouse me...

In response to Quote: "I asked Ray what about me turned him on. His response was, after he thought about it, 'That you love me and that you love me enough to love me in my love language.'" Just curious -- What is his love language? (I know of five possible languages.) Ray's love language is...

I found this on a web site; "Needs have a special meaning in NVC (Non Violent Communication): They are common to all people and not tied to any particular circumstance or strategy for fulfilling them. So, wanting to go to a movie with someone is not a need, and a desire to spend time with a...