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I am so so so sad. This is so so so stupid. When did I stop being a priority to her? Why did I stop being a priority to her? I stared at the wall most of the night, and I slept with her shirt so I could at least smell her, and I cried off and on. How pathetic is that? I fully realize I'm...

So it happened. you know I told her and things didn't go so well. Never once did I attempt to take the friendship away or do anything other than encourage our friendship, which was what it was supposed to be in the first place. A friendship peppered with occasional sex. For the past 2+ weeks...

Thank you for the dissent. She's not my property. I've worked pretty hard to make her comfortable enough with herself (I'm her second husband, her first was very controlling and very abusive to her) and this is the only thing I've ever sat down and said, "I can't do it." If she can't live with...

I sat her down and said my piece. First of all it was in the bedroom and she had told one of our kids (special needs child, Downs Syndrome) that she could watch a movie on our TV. I told her I would prefer it if she weren't in the room and we could talk about it and then watch a movie with...

There is a lot of questions I should answer but I'm at work and replying on my phone. I'm going to tell my wife what I've been telling her; that as much as my head wishes I could do this for her my heart can't. That it's not her, it's not this other couple, it's me. I'm not wired for it...

I'm talking to my wife tonight. I talked to #2 a couple weeks ago, but I think she thought I wasn't serious. She knows now that I'm serious. I'm not going to do that to her. I care too much about her to keep lying to her, and she has "always known" anyway. Some of it she's taking...

I know. I understand this. This is part of the reason I've allowed myself to become apathetic about our relationship because I understand at some point I'm going to have to give her an ultimatum of either me or her need for poly, and as much as she says she's going to choose me I don't know...

wow. Thank you everyone. There's a lot to chew on. I figured if anyone would be open and understanding of my side of it it would be a forum like this where lots of people have seen and experienced the gamut of poly relationships. There are so many things I wish I would have done differently...

I wish it would've worked; I wish I was wired for it, but I'm not a poly person. I don't want to do it anymore. I've told them I don't want to do it anymore. I've told everyone multiple times that I don't want to do it, that I'm tired of trying to be something that I'm not no matter how hard...

I'm reluctantly poly. My wife of 15 years and I have been in a poly relationship with another couple for the past 2ish years. It's been a struggle for me (not for them, they take to it like fish in water while I flounder around like I'm a fish trying to be a mountain climber). It started out...