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Hello poly world, it's been a while huh? Funny how the more happily poly my life becomes, the less interest I have in poly websites or groups. The drama and angst that shows up in so many posts seems so far from my boring life with my husband and boyfriend. Andy and I are happy as ever. Castle...

Lol Mags, you just made my day! And I didn't even get to all of it before I had to go do some stuff with Andy. I also learned that Castle does not feel the same weird need I do to have all "important people" know each other, or see inclusion in holidays and events as a marker of how important...

I'll try, but with the standard YMMV warning - I'm not sure my issues and triggers (or Castle's) will be similar to anyone else's since we are both weirdos ;) What helped the most was just being able to say "this hurts and this is why"... And to have him listen and understand. I sometimes lose...

Thanks Mags! Even though I'm not posting much I still lurk here, and I love reading that you and Pixi are doing well! I'm the same way with facebook, avoid it as much as I can... It sets off endless mental loops of comparing myself to everyone and feeling like I have to compete in some weird...

It's freezing here in Texas, and I'm curled up by the fire with Andy and the dogs. Life is good. I feel bad I don't write here very often, but I'm just soooo much calmer and happier when I don't blog :confused: I think it's mostly that I feel free to worry about what I want, what I need...

Your place looks awesome and I love the cat tree/house thing! He looks so comfy up there :D

It's funny, I hadn't even realized it consciously, but Castle breaking up with me because of his wife's reaction to us is no longer something I worry about. I mean, it could happen. The same way it's possible that Andy could meet someone new tomorrow and decide to divorce me and be mono with...

Castle was here for two days, and it was wonderful. Like we had never been apart. Soooo I'm going to try and stick out the damn long distance thing, hoping he can be here full time again soon. It helped that he was able to calm my biggest stresses about being in an ldr. The main one being that...

I've been meaning to post an update for forever but... Truth is thinking about poly makes me sad and anxious lately, so I've been avoiding this blog and just lurking to keep up with everyone else's adventures. Castle went back to the east coast a few days after my last post, and we've been...

Andy worked all weekend. I mean, ALL weekend, non stop. We were supposed to go to the lake saturday, then out to dinner... He couldn't make either of those work. We tried to do brunch Sunday but he lasted 20 minutes and was back in the phone. This is one of those things that used to drive me...

This is exactly how I feel. I love both my guys, I am happy in both relationships... But being apart from both of them so much is awful. Honestly I think it's much harder for me than either of them. I don't really want a poly relationship as much as two mono relationships :confused: if that...

God, what a shit day. I have to go with Andy to the eye doctor today, and he's dreading it, and that makes me dread it, and we were both up all night stressed out. On top of that, Castle was stressing this morning about our age difference. Like, someday I will feel obligated to take care of...

I miss Castle. Just miss him. After only a day without seeing him. I miss his voice, his smile, his smell, his warmth, the feel of his skin. I want to be next to him and soak up his Castle-ness. This is the shitty part of having two relationships. The missing part.

Life is blissfully back to "normal"... I'm up at the lake place right now with Castle, sitting outside and goofing around while he does school stuff. We will go home tonight, and this weekend I'll be back up here with Andy. The biggest stress in my life is weekend schedules - it's the perfect...

I'm sorry Oona isn't a good sounding board for your relationship stuff right now. I'm glad you realized that and can work on separating your friendship with her from your need for poly advice and support. On the being single to figure yourself out thing... I think it's bullshit. Mostly because...

My husband has two friend circles - the "me" friends and the "Stephanie" friends. But he will occasionally bring Steph to something with our couple friends, or me to something with their couple friends, and it's never been an issue. It helps that we have all met at big parties or work events at...

(((hugs))) I feel you on the " hingeing is hard" thing. I don't need alone time much, but I do need downtime, and it's a struggle to even get that. I would be going insane if I couldn't recharge while watching tv with Andy or going on a walk with Castle. Don't forget to make time for you...

Does this friend not have ANYWHERE else she can stay, or money for a hotel??? I lean on my friends a lot, but I can't imagine asking for a place to stay (indefinitely?) unless the alternative was sleeping on the street. Especially if the reason I needed to move was "i had an affair and got...

It just works with us, I guess... We are damn lucky and I know that. But we've had a lot of practice, too. For our entire relationship he has spent time with Steph, sometimes multiple nights a week, sometimes week long trips sharing a hotel room. So the idea that one of us having another really...

I got sent straight home from work this morning - I'm sick sick sick. Not surprised, since a kid puked on me yesterday :rolleyes: @sexyserb... I know I write much more about Castle than Andy, but that's just because there's uncertainty and anxiety around Castle, and rarely any at all in my...