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Just in case I want to underline that it is probably best to have discussions (note the plural) with your huband before even hinting to the new guy. This forum regularly gets posts from anguished people whose partner talked to the new person first, have determined they are both in love, and want...

Sort of on a side note...It is great that you are okay with her friendly relations with her exes. I have a dear friend of 20 years whose girlfriend wanted him to have nothing more to do, not only with his ex (with whom he still did things occasionally), but with our whole circle of friends! It...

Is this a communication issue, like "We always plan our weekends together and an earlier heads up would've been nice", or "Wait a minute! Since when are you on such good terms with your ex? How come you have not mentioned this?" Or is this a bit of a insecurity issue like "People don't hang...

I seem to recall those are/were sex surrogates? In the cities Where I have lived a sex therapist is a therapist who specializes in psycho sexual problems, just as a family therapist specializes in family issues.

For me, I need a good while of no contact to even think of friendship when a romance ends, otherwise I get tangled up in desire and hurt. Some people don't have that issue but in this case it sounds to me as though you do. Unless you really want to moon around applying subtle pressure to get...

I will be off to bed shortly so don't feel ignored if I don't answer, we can always talk tomorrow if you still want.

I don't have whatsapp, unfortunately but we can text here if you like.

I'm sorry to hear what a painful situation you are in! You say your wife has never been willing to get any meaningful therapy. Does that mean that any physical and/or mental issues she may have tried to treat with drugs remain unaddressed? If so then your thought of a mental issue could be spot...

I'm sorry you have gotten such unhappy news! Of course it does not change your feelings about him. It is good that he has you to help him through this crisis and the coming years. I hope your own health improves, don't forget to care for yourself so as to handle things as best you can. Leetah

I understand well the feeling that here is someone who makes you feel great to be around, I have been in love with people who don't end up being as compatible as I thought. It is very hard to think of giving up the good feelings you get from being with someone and you feel willing to do whatever...

Putting a cautious 2 cents in, "legal"and "ethical" are not always the same. This discussion should be moved over to the Definition Thread also.

This sounds like a mess, a familiar mess though. NRE, falling in love, can be a very powerful thing, especially if one is not used to it. I was in your girlfriend's place a couple of years ago. At times I felt so out of my mind that I was frightened. The thing is, sure you should stop trying to...

Okay, so what I've gotten from this discussion is that each person defines, expresses, and experiences love in their own way. People should not make statements which assume that their own way is the best or only way and demand that others agree. Sometimes people change their ways, either with...

Allergies, like most physical problems, can be exacerbated by stress. Not that you have had much ability to avoid it lately! Ventris

Autumn came in cool here as well. Only a couple weeks since a record heat wave! Though we got plenty of rain last year, drought mentality makes it feel as though cold weather and storms are semi-mythical. Ventris

Happy birthday ya young whipper snapper! 😊😊😊😊😊🎂🎈🎈 Ventris

Welcome Sour Pennies! You are certainly not alone in grappling with such issues. I have found that the "advanced" search function is most useful for finding relevant threads. If you have questions or want to start a discussion of course you can post to whichever forum seems appropriate. Leetah

Welcome! Check out Bluebird's Blog here http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=54032 She has two husbands and has dealt with all kinds of reactions over the years. Leetah

If you can go on being normal around her even when living together I would go with not talking about it in any serious way. You don't want to leave her with no choice but staying in a living situation that has become uncomfortable. I guess it depends on how long she expects to live with you...

I imagine you are very excited that H wants to go ahead with talking to D. just be sure that he is not merely consenting instead of actually enthoused by the idea. I think someone grappling with stress, anxiety and depression is in no state to start a relationship, let alone see his partner...