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Hi, UH, I'm not very familiar with runes. I use tarot and other divination methods. Would you tell me more? I've never been described as a lucid dreamer, but I'm not surprised, either. :) I certainly give lots of weight to my intuition.... Are you new to the board and/or new to poly? JG

Even as a teen, there were times in my life that I was in love with more than one person at the same time. I didn't think I could act on both of them at the same time since I was growing up in the conservative midwest. So I broke up with one of them in order to be with the other. For me...

Thanks, River. I realize that I do preface my comments with something similar (unconventional, unusual, etc.) and it does seem to disarm the situation a bit. I'd just never analyzed why it seems to works. :) Thanks again! JG

I agree that the idea of you being grounded, as an adult, seems absurd. But in answer to your question...I would say Yes and Yes. If you agree to be home at a certain time, then be there or expect that there will be some kind of consequence. Probably something like loss of trust between the two...

We can agree to disagree, SourGirl. :) Just because I've found something to be helpful doesn't mean everyone will. And I realize that it's not the end all and be all of relationship tools. It's just one among many. :) JG

Thank you, this is great! :)

Five Love Lanaguages nycindie's posting of "Everyday Commitments To Loving Kindness" inspired me to start a thread about the Five Love Languages. (I did a search and didn't find it, so if this is a repeat, I apologize.) It's also not specifically poly (in fact, the creator is an Evangelical...

Welcome. You'll find a lot of support here. I would recommend the book Opening Up: a Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships by Tristan Taormino. There's also website associated with it: http://openingup.net/. I haven't explored it much yet, but I'm going to now that I know about it...

I agree, I need more info. It sounds more to me like you want to move a secondary to a primary position from your description. Thanks! :)

Just to be clear, I wasn't suggesting that the OP run out and find someone to date right now. I just think it's good for folks to explore and know themselves better. If you never ponder whether you might have an x or y orientation (could be anything, but here we're talking poly or mono), you'll...

Exactly! :) I don't spend a lot of time broadcasting my poly-ness, but I also don't make any effort to hide it. I agree that it takes too much energy.

Welcome, Oxygen. I'm glad you're here and that you appreciate your hubby and all he does for you. And I'm glad things are going well for you. :) JG

Welcome! :) Dr. Who and True Blood...two of my favorites. (Although I like the Sookie books better than the TV show. :D) JG

Welcome, l2s. :) What a grand adventure you're embarking on! There's a lot to learn here and a lot of support. I would caution you about thinking you only want to date a couple. I thought that, too, being bisexual. What I've ended up with and what works for me is relationships individuals. I...

As I said, I think you are doing wonderfully well. You seem very level-headed and you are aware of your needs. I understand your need for reassurance. It's very natural, especially when we've been programmed that we should be mono by society when not all of us are. I hope that you'll continue...

Welcome. I think you're doing quite well handling all this. You've figured out some strategies to occupy your time and I'm sure you'll find some more. Remember that it's a journey and not a destination. As you've already found, poly is not easy, but it's definitely worth it, in my opinion...

I know. I said old timer. I'm old. :D I own it. I'm almost 50!!!!! :p

Singing and musical theater (both of those community, not professional). RVing and camping (yes, they are different things). :D Reading fantasy and mystery novels. Corgi dogs (currently have two, but have two that have gone the the Rainbow Bridge). Spending time with my partners. :)

Hi, Lucky! Nice to meet you. :) Glad to know I'm not the only "old timer" here. cindie, woof, woof..woofwoof! :D JG

So, here's the scoop on me and my poly experiences. ;) I'll try to be as concise as I can...I'm old. :D I'm 48 and I've been openly poly for about 15 years now. But that doesn't mean I didn't try it before then. I've nearly always identified as bisexual, except for the years in the early 80's...