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Hi Robin and Joyce, It sounds like a roller coaster ride for the two of you! I wish you the very best... In reading your posts I haven't heard much about Joyce's boyfriend, but from what is present, I have to be honest and say that I'm disappointed in him. He is married, you are both married...

"The blank stare"... What a great way to describe the reaction of someone (especially someone who has always been mono) the first time they hit the idea of the possibility of poly... I had the "poly talk" for the first time with my wife just the other night. I got the blank stare.... That was...

If there is little trust in the relationship, how can one connect at a deep level? I can totally understand why you are feeling that things are not quite right when the trust isn't there. Sounds normal to me...

Thanks SNeacail, I am no longer a pastor. Both my wife and I are actually not interested in being involved with church or religion, and it is amazing how we have both journeyed this together and come to very similar conclusions at the same time despite still working through our other issues...

Is emotional connection a "need" or perhaps an expression of oneself? I resonate with your comments mono. I know for a large part of my married life I have been perfectly OK with being mono. I didn't feel any need or drive to find deep emotional or physical connection with any else outside of...

Thanks Tonberry, I agree that there is usually something underneath the jealousy and getting to the real reason behind it is what needs to be worked through... It is such a major shift in thinking for me too having always assumed that mono is really the only appropriate long-term relationship...

Hi Moonglow, I can feel your crushed spirit... I'm sorry for your pain. 5 years ago my wife put an end to a relationship that meant a great deal to me. I love my wife and want to be with her, so I had to let this be even though it sent me into a deep, dark place. While time heals to a degree...

Thanks for your comments redpepper and tonberry. I appreciate them! As I continue to think things through, one of the things that crosses my mind is the thought that maybe it is appropriate that a woman be jealous of her husband who decides that he wants to explore other emotionally and/or...

Thanks for everyone's responses. I really appreciate it! Ari, thanks for your comments about "soul friends". That is a very meaningful term. I like it! I guess by using the term "soulmate" I was referring to the person who I want to do life with, raise a family with, a life companion. I can...

Wow! This is all so new to me! A few days ago I didn't even know the word polyamory existed! Anyway, I've got a bit of a story and I would really appreciate people's thoughts/advice and even sharing their experience as a way of helping me sort through all of this. I hope this is right place to...