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Updating... This seems like the easiest place to give an update... and believe me one is needed... Turned out the woman I mentioned in my post on 7/4 was not really poly and just looking for a new husband so I broke things off with her. Shortly after that I started messaging a woman, K, that...

Hi Christie, Sorry that you haven't got much response here, but know that I am always here for you (online and irl!) :) -DW

I'm late to this party and this is somewhat OT from the OP, but just wanted to highlight this quote from YGirl... Well said.

Welcome to the site. Hopefully you'll find it useful to you. -DW

I can relate to this. Ignorance was bliss, but at the same time, I am glad I found out. Yes, it seems divergent thinking. Not sure how that helps you exactly, except, I guess, to know that your husband isn't the only human being to ever feel this way. Anyway... your initial post was ONE week...

Thanks for the link! And it was an interesting read. Maybe I'm just stubborn or not ready to be open to that train of thought right now, but I still disagree. I do agree that all of the effort poured into my marriage was never out of some expectation of great return, but my love for Christie...

I know, with my first attempt at dating, I fell right into the either/or mentality of being monogamous. Of course, there was no question who I 'chose,' but it didn't seem fair to the other woman, because in other circumstances I very well could have continued dating her. (Disclaimer: she knew my...

SayYes, Thank you for having to patience to post basically the same response three times. After reading all three in succession just now, I think I am starting to understand it. I think Christie feels similar to how you have put it. In my mind, your responses are answering the implied...

Thanks! I can see how Christie found this forum useful. I like how it is a mix of folks with different perspectives and not just poly, poly, poly... Yay poly. I'm confident we'll manage to work things out. Thanks again. -Andy

I can completely relate to the situation your husband is in... mono husband to poly wife, she the only woman I have ever been intimate with, me content with it being that way, me not wanting her to want other lovers. Your latest response indicates you have taken a step back to look at the big...

Welcome. How long married? How long have you 'thought' you are poly? -DW

I want to second this!! Oh, and sdguitarguy's post at 4:03pm 7/20 just rocked. A lot hit home for me as well, mono a mono. :) -DW

Ok… focusing on page 1 here… other pages to follow… Ariakas. I admit I originally glossed over your reply initially, but upon reading it found it simply well put... “you are satisfied in your sexual connection with him”… I believe that we do have an awesome connection. But what I find...

Egads! So many responses to reply to it feels overwhelming! How do y'all find the time?? (and I only have one relationship to focus on :) Hopefully I'll figure out this quote thing and be able to respond that way... -DW

Hi Sage... I took your advice and joined. An interesting read into my beloved's mindset this thread was... (why am I talking like Yoda all of a sudden?) SayYes, you're reply makes sense, but boy does it seem harsh. My heart says I *want* to be with one person and I want that person to *want*...

I perpetuated this same fallacy. I saw the Quantity of suitors pining for my wife without realizing the Quality was quite small. And it takes time and energy to sort through the various facades men will present to try and achieve their ultimate goal. Glad you were able to meet the OSO...

Hi Dazed, Any update from the last few days? As far as what ILW2 said, yes, I am faced with some of the same issues, the external pressure of what others think. Sure, I hear, "Who cares what other people think?" "It's between you and your wife!" etc., etc., but the fact is that I do feel it...

Seems really odd replying to my wife on here. Please know that this is not our only form of communication! :) And I'm afraid I may come off harsher than I mean to in my forum posts. Make no mistake-- Christie means the world to me. This is just me trying to figure this out. She is worth all...

I had no idea what I was going to start when I titled my intro this way. Any thoughts on the poly discussions in here? Maybe I should move over to the New to Poly forum?

Glad to hear you are willing to give full disclosure to him about what's going on. Rather than just doing it and going down the cheating path. That can't be good. Is there a rush to move things along? (other than the personal 'I want to experience this' piece) Seems like you might be able to...