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Skirts. Lately, I have been wearing my sarongs about the house. The are light and comfy, and perfect for the hot weather. First time I wore a sarong was when I went camping, and most of the other guys were wearing them. Granted, it took me until the last day to finally get me in one. I...

I don't have an ideal relationship, more of an ideal living situation. Earlier this year, my girlfriend, her hetero-lifemate, her boyfriend, his wife, her boyfriend, and his wife, all moved into a three flat together. It was something they had dreamed of for years (except my GF, who did not...

I'll confess that I hate talking on the phone. Always have! And in groups, I tend to be very quiet. If I had a penny for every time someone said to me, "I don't think I have ever heard your accent", I'd be rich. Okay. Not rich. But I would have a lot of pennies. I tend to fair better in...

At work, I am a pretty private person. I don't talk about what I do outside of work hours, and nobody has a clue about the other women in my life. That's just the way I am. Yet, I am extremely open. We are open to our friends, our family, our kids. On Facebook, I'm "in a open relationship"...

Last night I spent the evening with the wife of nine years, discussing a chemistry home-school curriculum for our two girls, and whether we could purchase the books needed. Tonight I spend the evening with the girlfriend of two and half years, probably cuddled on a sofa watching a movie or...

How important is self esteem in the creation of healthy, loving relationships? Essential. If your self-esteem is low, then you find yourself to constantly questioning the love somebody has for you, or that they deserve better. That is just as much hurtful to them as it it damaging to you. How...

I read somewhere, I think it was on this forum, that it is not uncommon for triads to ultimately become a V relationship. While my girlfriend is my secondary, it is important to understand that the love I have for her isn't. Before me, she had dated other married guys, and had on occasion been...

I was going to make a similar comment to what morethan1 made. Relationships do affect the people who are in the relationship, which in turn, indirectly affects the other relationships. But that is true with everything in life. My job can change my mood, as well as the weather, today's traffic...

Okay, I am playing devil's advocate here.... If Dh were to fall in love with these women, and then you told him you "couldn't handle it", would he still drop them in a heartbeat? Despite his professed love for them? As far as I am concerned, polyamory is a door you can open and step through...

I was in a monogamous relationship for seven years, and I'll admit, was quite happy and content. I did not feel this overwhelming urge to date more women, nor did I feel trapped in my marriage. Granted my wife is not the jealous sort. If she ever caught me staring at or admiring other women, her...

I've had some success with OkCupid. You can also try searching for any local poly support groups. Shortly after we opened up our marriage, I did a search and found a group on Meetup.com. Turns out the hostess lived 5 minutes away, and we've been friends ever since. It was at the second meetup I...

So in your previous marriage, when did you try out polyamory? If it was towards the end, when the relationship was beginning to deteriorate, then it is not completely surprising that it did not work out. The broken marriage, add more people is not a solution to fixing a a relationship. It is...

As it happens, I also stumbled across this post today: Adam Sandler Doing A Gay, Polyamorous Three Men And A Baby Remake?

but surely monogamy is just polyfidelity between two people!!!!

I read that as meaning that not every relationship needs to have a sexual component to it. My girlfriend and....I suppose....my other girlfriend, have lived together for over ten years and classify their relationship as polyamorous. One is bi, the other is not. So technically, they are each...

There are going to be exceptions to every rule, and I am glad you are one of them. My point was that sometimes we overestimate our own ability to handle a situation, that is, until it actually happens. So when giving advice, it is always better to err on the side of caution than to presume...

The character played by the English actress Polly Walker was poly. She had two husbands in the show and I'm not sure how many wives. Apparently it was a group marriage. And yes, they were all monotheists. Sadly, the SyFy channel cancelled the show. A metamour would be the lover of your lover...

I have my own theory. Rather than Man being by nature either polyamorous or monogamous, I imagine him as being polygynous, or in the case of females, polyandrous. That men had an evolutionary desire to spread their seed to as many women as possible, while at the same time, women wanted as many...

Polyamory provides us the opportunity to express different aspect of our personality with different people. With the girlfriend, I tend to be more submissive, whereas the wife is completely turned off with anything pertaining to D/s. Sometimes it is easy to explore something new with somebody...