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Rules? Hi, I've read a couple of threads now regarding rules. I understand, as I move through my relationship that rules become less important BUT, there is an understanding of a few things that he and I have that we will maintain. I'm wondering what guidelines, rules, understandings you...

I like the suggestion about the toys - especially if/when you are incorporating more BDSM play - nothing like getting beaten to a semi-pulp and then being made to cum endlessly with a toy and then be snuggled into la-la land. :) Sure, I know that's a lot of work too. Remember to make time...

Thank you. I think this is a lot of our issue - I was shocked when I met his father who is a wonderful, thoughtful and interesting man who is at the point of believing all the lies about his life. It showed me some of the modeling he had as a child. His marriage was built on that premise of...

We've been in counseling individually and will start couples this week - but will only be able to do that about monthly as that is when I am in his town and we've decided that it will be easier to have our joint counselor there. I tend to visit there slightly more (especially in the summer)...

He lied to me and he cheated on me. We are doing much better with our communication on both sides and we are working through things but, every now and then the fear strikes me like a dagger. I don't want to feel that sharpness anymore. I want to feel confident and bold and loved...

Hi, While I wouldn't call it a "restriction" or even protection as much as what we've learned by trying various type of open / poly in our past - it is what works for us. Having written that and also read another thread this morning - I'm wondering if my type of discussion and concerns...

We've used Skype in the past and i'd like to do it more. One time we cooked dinner at the same time - We talked about finding a recipe to make together like we would if we were able to be together. Then, eat and drink wine and talk. At first, i thought it would make me miss his touch more...

Sorry - I've been failing at being concise: I realized that I just had to let it be and allow DD what he wanted. Knowing that it would not always be that way for us. Or, that if it was, and I was the one always compromising, that as much as I love DD we may not be ready for the relationship...

I can share with you one of my experiences that seem similar to yours. But, mine was recent and it really only involved a short time frame ... so it isn't quite the same thing as what you are going through. I'm going to give you a really high level of what we did: I did my best to make sure...

Hi, I'm new to the board - I joined earlier this week and have been reading and trying to understand what I really came here for - which is multifaceted. My main thing now is recovering from lies. We're both in counseling and we are seeing a counselor together for couples therapy. This...

I have been in a situation where I have asked my partner to "delay" or "take a break" from what is going on with others for a time. When I asked it, I believe his concern was that I would want to hold things there indefinitely and try for us to have a "traditional" relationship when that is not...

I'm taking this with me today. thank you

Here's how we use Jealousy / Envy Envy - wanting what someone else has AND being very happy for them that they have it. Jealousy - wanting what someone else has AND being angry/frustrated that they have it and I don't. When I move from envious to jealous I have to be cautious because the...

HI, My boyfriend and I have what we have defined as an open relationship rather than poly. To us that means we don't have other loves but we have FWB / Play partners - We are into BDSM which is how we first met. We've been together for 2 years and about 6 months ago he moved because of work...