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    How do I tell her?

    I almost feel as though greeneyes last comment was directed at me as much as it was at EpsilonLyr :: raised eyebrow, then wink :: That is no to say that I don't agree with what you, greeneyes, are saying. Of course, as you know, I've gotten more picky lately about people's use of "should." It...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    I think there is a dynamic which has changed after some recent talks. I think greeneyes has been under the impression that I have had some unstated (and therefore dreaded and feared) desire - that I am trying to *make* something happen, rather than remove the restrictions that would *allow*...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    Ok, well I'm certainly sorry that I have caused you nervousness. My understanding was that we were anonymous on here, and so we could say "whatever." It seems to me that we need to re-discuss this more so we can both be on the same sheet of music. [brief discussion takes place b/c, after all...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    I believe we had a breakthrough last night into understanding greeneyes feelings of anxiety, and how I play into that and can help reduce those feelings =-) It came on the heels of what could have been (I think) a huge fight, but we stayed in it together, and it turned out really good and even...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    ^^^ was supposed to be in response to greeneyes (I think). and to eklctc, I read and I believe understand what you are saying, but was this more directed at myself, or greeneyes?
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    How to....

    I agree with greeneyes on this (no surprise, heh): if I was a single bisexual womon, I think I would find it flattering to think that this couple was talking about their deep feelings of affection for me when I wasn't even around, whereas I would find it creepy if I found out they were making...
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    Word Association Game!

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    How do I tell her?

    It's funny, last night my partner was asking about a sexual relationship from my past from before my gender transition (when I was living as a man, rather than as a womon). I hadn't talked or even thought much about it in a while, but it was probably my most significant experience in terms of...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    Yeah, I was not arguing against what you said =-)
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    How do I tell her?

    There is nothing wrong in raising the veil of ignorance. I can raise my veil, and I trust you and everyone else can raise their own veils. When someone else decides to touch my veil, it angers me because I consider it presumptuous. Here, you've asked a question, and so I've answered. If people...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    I think there is a fundamental question as to mindset. North American culture is very entrenched in codification, hierarchy, taxonomy, the "machine metaphor", and contract language. I think attempting to deal with organic issues in a way which reflects (simple, artificial) machine theory quickly...
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    How do I tell her?

    Wow. I know *I* sure wouldn't want some man thinking he was going to "fully educate" me so that I could be "converted"... which I guess is why I stick with wimmin :: raised eyebrow :: My thoughts are more along the lines of my partner, greeneyes, although I'll also mention that I'm a little...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    So, three days ago, a friend of ours called up from out of the blue and eventually made his way around to asking about polyamory. He's younger and originally from Latin America, now living in the USA, so he was seeking some advice about making sense of this, particularly in a North American...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    I'm realizing that the biggest change so far is an increased sense of forthrightness between greeneyes and myself. I have always endeveavored to deal with her in the most honest way, but there's just not time in the day for "the whole truth" of life, so by neccessity we pick and choose what to...
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    I appreciate what I have, and so I use what I got.

    I was looking on here to see where I thought I might want to dig into some more reading, and then I saw this category for "blogging" about our experiences. This had an immediate appeal to me, since it was something I was talking with greeneyes about last night. I think I would prefer to do this...
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    Shyly Waves Hello from FL...

    I am the loving partner, M (not sure about the beautiful part, seeing as how biased I know greeneyes to be). I am a less awesome Ⓥegan cook, but better than most because of my awesome cooking mentor :: bats eyes at greeneyes :: Oh yeah, my only artistic inclination is toward the low-art known...
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    Personal Summaries

    ... and her partner in crime =-) I am the loving partner, M (not sure about the beautiful part, seeing as how biased I know greeneyes to be). I am a less awesome Ⓥegan cook, but better than most because of my awesome cooking mentor :: bats eyes at greeneyes :: Oh yeah, my only artistic...
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