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Personally, I'd still seek legal advice and get everything in writing ahead of time. Laws can change, dna can win in a court battle. Get the paperwork to protect everyone down the road, because 5-10 years down the road, the courts don't care what you verbally agreed to before the kid was born.

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Got nothing to do with Trump! The Russian spam showing up now, just means that many of the moderators are busy with real life and miss a few. This has been an big issue every since even before I became a member here. I've been on the board since 2010.

Definitely check with an attorney about this. I know many people who have their home in a living trust have to change the title to Individuals to do a re-finance and then change the title back to the trust once the re-fi is complete. If he has a "house" don't just let it be covered in a will -...

Yeah - stay away from most of the faith based ones. Other than that, there is a list on this board someplace, but you interview the counselor first. If they don't know what poly is, they aren't likely to be poly friendly. Have an actual conversation with the therapist before committing to...

Based on my own experiences - which sound very similar to your story. Your wife has known/suspected about your cheating for a LONG time. She has likely done some work on her own to prepare herself on how to deal with the situation as it stands. Take her up on the therapy with a poly friendly...

Ah - it was 1950's wiring with a ground added. Most of my 1950's wiring didn't have one. There was a ground from the box attached to a water pipe that didn't go into the ground until it went through the entire attic & garage first :rolleyes:. Lazyass contractors who do only exactly what they are...

Usually you just have to change your passwords on email accounts to stop the hackers. Even if you don't use the old email, at least change the password or disable it and change the password on everything else.

Why would anyone go through the effort to re-wire the house and NOT change out the outlets? The basic 3 prong outlet runs about $0.50 each (bought in a 10 pack @ HD).

I think we all need those connections with people of the same gender and people with similar interests. There is just something that can't replace what happens when a bunch of girls get together. I'm sure it's the same for the guys.

Like Tinwen said, this sounds like an extreme. I do know from experience, that when a partner has been neglected their need tends to get to that desperate stage. Once they do start getting that attention again, it becomes addictive and they realize what they've been missing and they crave it...

Oh God - I've been gone so long, I just realized you were starting Chemo. Hugs!!! I love that style. A friend of mine is going through Chemo right now (33 yo with breast cancer :( ). The word I hear is don't plan on wearing the wigs for long periods as they can irritate the skin when there is...

Poly has many different configurations, including some casual sex hook ups. Not everyone has strong emotions right from the start. However, based on what you have said, there is enough trust between the two for them to experiment. So I'm not sure I would call it emotion free. I'm a bit offended...

This part is a bit passive aggressive. Is there something he could do to "FIX" this weekend, so you don't feel the way your currently feeling? Let him know that you would like him to make it up to you. I would suggest having a face to face conversation about this: Find ways to schedule more...

Running errands doesn't count as time together - that's just everyday life. I do believe that you should say something NOW! I also think you two need to have a long talk about setting aside more days just for the two of you - he needs to know that you are feeling neglected and taken for granted.

Maybe she was ashamed of it because she really didn't want to be doing it. It may depend on her definitions. Just because she had sex with her male friend, doesn't mean she was ever really attracted to him. It's very likely that she did it as a sense of obligation or experimentation and now...

Breath! It sounds like you are trying to take on everyone's issues as your own. Step back. Stop worrying about how they fit together - that relationship is not yours to manage. Start to break things down into it's parts. You go into a funk when Tabs goes home - does everyone know this, is there...

The 3 days a year you get to see it.:p The big ass volcano within striking distance of Seattle, Olympia and a bunch of cities with really funny names that only locals can pronounce.

Feels like I've been away forever Work put big brother spyware on our computers, so I haven't spent as much time on here as before. Truth is once my marriage officially went poly, I haven't felt the need to be here as much - things are going good. My acceptance of a poly life still freaks my...

I'm gone for months and the first thing I comment on is politics - really?!? :P I agree with NYCindie: It's "career politicians" that know how to actually get stuff done. The job is 100 time more complex than any of us could even imagine and it's easy to sit and arm chair quarterback from home...