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:D You forgot the biggest reason: YOU HAVE BEEN THERE! Kids don't give a crap about words, they see and react to actions. If your actions in the past are different than your actions now, it might take some time before she will fully trust the new reality, but eventually, she will accept it and...

This is my husband (without the Aspie). He thrives on other people needing his help and lets himself get pulled 20 different direction and overloaded. Unfortunately, it is I who pays the price, and he can't see that unless I point it out in what seems like overly-dramatic terms, like, "you are...

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I think this is the key point. People new to the board, will not have a feel for each poster's personality when posting and will feel attacked. IRL there are people I can be blunt with and there are others that I can't. Having a tenancy for being "blunt" is no excuse for being cruel. Cruelty...

LOL! I remember days like these. Now that I only have one teenager at home and he seems to have come out of the puberty emotional stage, things are much better. Warning: boys between the ages of 11-14 +/_ get super emotional (PMS 24/7) :eek: Take heart, some of this is just normal school age...

OK, that would actually be funny to see, especially if you could get a bunch of people to go along with it.

You now know he remembers visual communication better, so next time, send a simple text with a few basics, "FYI: talking to new person - more details in person, IF you ask". Come to an agreement that after the initial FYI text you won't be volunteering any additional information unless he asks...

What Kevin said. It's my opinion that removing yourself will just make the problem worse in the long run. Your daughter has had some HUGE changes in her life this last year. You not being around, a near divorce, a move, school started, new sister and now mom is always around. That's a lot...

My husband does this - drives me batshit crazy! Looking back, had I realized this sooner, we probably would never have gotten married (or maybe I would have been stupid enough to think it wouldn't continue, I was young and naive). After 23 years of marriage and 2 kids, I'm kinda stuck and all...

This! The therapist should at least be able to get a feel, if there is real deep seated resentment, did something happen that you don't know about or is this is just a power trip on the child's part. To me it sounds like she is testing your boundaries and she has figured out how to push your...

I'm sure the vague response is because each situation is unique. Walking down the street arm in arm with your best friend may seem completely harmless to him, while if you did the same with someone else, it might set off triggers. I have good friends that I'm comfortable being much more...

Along with what everyone else has already stated, I think you need to look into some legal matters, since it sounds like you and GF already have a child together. What are your custody rights if you do decide to break up? Has anyone been tested for STDs (including yourself, since she isn't...

We all have those stories, including ones that haunt our dreams and it's usually regarding the first child (but not necessarily). My mom, has apologized to me more than once about the mistakes she made with me and learned better once my brother came along. This is without adding the postpartum...

I think this is something you need to talk over with Matt. While there may be a point where certain PDA can step over the line and become disrespectful to your spouse, it doesn't necessarily mean that all of it is or that Matt feels the same way. I spent 20 years holding myself back, censoring...

Not free in the state of California. There are SOME that insurance MAY pay for (the common top 3) once a year, all the rest including HSV 1 & 2 or more often than once a year is extra. The "free clinics" charges about $75 per test with a discount for more than one at a time.

Those fires can be scary! My kid had to be evacuated once while working staff at a scout camp. A kid we consider a nephew had to be evacuated as a scout camper 3 years in a row and one year had to leave all his stuff in in a bathroom (the campsites had cinder block open air bathrooms, so...

This is understandable. Admitting to struggling with finding the real issue is a good step. Sometimes we can "investigate" or beat an issue to death and that in itself becomes a bigger problem, so sometimes shelving it for now can be helpful, especially when no answers are forthcoming at this...

I agree! Be VERY careful about re-labeling the reality, this can be as destructive as pretending it didn't exist. When we re-label things, we set the focus in the wrong place and the real issues don't get addressed or fixed and later down the road, the pattern repeats itself. My husband does...

Not sure about randomness. He says nothing unless she calls him out on it for some reason. If she asks, he must fess up, otherwise the only point in telling her would be to relieve himself of his guilt by causing her pain. This is assuming he will actively do whatever is necessary to never...

I only have an answer for situation #1 - Do not tell. If, it is truly over and he never cheats again, then telling would be for purely selfish reasons of reliving his own guilt at the expense of his wife's feelings. Go to therapy, but don't drag everyone else into hell with you. However, if...