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I agree, the number of past partners is irrelevant. While this is problematic, I wouldn't call it "addiction", but a symptom of bigger relationship issues. As I've discovered recently within my own relationship, having partner(s) who are supportive and willing to discuss what's going on and...

Did you discuss this with him the way you posted here. It's probably important to acknowledge the effort he's making and let him know how much you appreciate it. It's also okay to let him know that you are struggling with the situation and all the limitations. Let him know that you are sad...

I find these questions don't actually have a definite answer. Each person is different and they deal with relationships differently. My husband has a close intimate relationship with a lady that is completely non-sexual. They refer to each other as brother/sister. It is definitely much more...

I remember having this said to me and actually believing it. It sucks! It was also a fucking lie! He was the one that was NOT husband material at the time and was deflecting and blaming me for all his weaknesses and failings. However, it did give me the motivation to work towards more...

Congrats on the grand baby! Happy Anniversary :)

Mine was borderline - but yeah, sounds familiar. "No, you bombed the test because you either didn't know the material or couldn't be bothered to take care of business. It doesn't hurt me one bit if you have to take an extra class or two, it's not my class." It may not sink in now, but it might...

I'm ok with some degree of co-dependency, especially with regard to kids and financial obligations because that was a decision I made and signed up for. When my husband and I changed the way we both approach all the obligations, we were both happier. Definitely easier to raise a kid while living...

For now, just date and be yourself! No one thinks twice if a single man dates multiple women, especially so recently after a divorce. Look in different places - kinda like don't go looking for an agnostic at a church picnic. There are certain people I don't bring up poly or even homosexuality...

It's really hard to actually step back far enough until you have had no contact for a while. Some friends of mine, tried to maintain a friendship after being lovers without having a period of time with no contact and they kept waffling back and forth for nearly a year until it did turn toxic (at...

I find these views interesting. I never actually thought about it this way. Then again, I have trouble putting words to ideas sometimes. I'm in the process of trying to help my husband smash all "traditional" thoughts about relationships and sexuality, as he's struggling with coming to terms...

UGH! My dad recently passed and I was the one that had to go through everything to find all the life insurance policies and help my mom get everything transferred into her name. It's a major PITA. She's still playing musical chairs with my dad's pension and SS payments 3 months later. Turns out...

I felt the same when my marriage was at toxic levels. My brother was so scarred by his ex-wife (and her continual custody legal bs) that he can't even consider getting married again to his current live-in gf (she wants to). Personally I see it as a form of self defense and a good course of...

Holy crap $40/$90 I seriously need to move. My 31 in a 25 was $175 5 years ago. The only thing around here that's under $200 are parking tickets.:rolleyes: The flowers are BEAUTIFUL!!!

My husband and I went for 18 months. It was nearly a year before things really got back on track, even after we stopped going for financial reasons, I wish we could have continued. These things take time. However, if you aren't feeling the connection with the counselor, that may impede the...

Start with a "Tag Search" under the Search heading above. Look at boundaries, jealousy, etc. There are some great threads to read through. Also browse through the Golden Nugget section. http://www.morethantwo.com/ has got a lot of information and some very good articles on dealing with jealousy.

I can see 38 weeks, but 36 :eek:. Do you tend to deliver early? Otherwise, 36 seems excessively early. 20 years ago, VBAC was a big deal here, but now it's only a few hospitals that will even allow it (those just happen to also be the ones with the lowest c-section rates in the area).

I missed the whole infant thing. So he has time to explore poly and dating with an infant in the house? WTF? Is he going for the shit ass partner and the absentee dad award? PS. I'm a big supporter of poly and being true to one's self, when the existing relationship is in good working order...

I will call "bullshit" on not having time. He seems to think he will have time to date, he has time to go to couples counseling. You say you don't want a divorce (but don't want him exploring his poly tendencies and he has a history of cheating) so you need to MAKE the time for counseling...

BTDT. About 11 years ago, my husband fell off a ladder 3 days before Christmas. Actually, the ladder slipped out from beneath him (the driveway, was sloped and had oil on it :rolleyes:) and it shattered his wrist. Both my LITTLE kids were still on the roof when he fell. They are still freaked...

One thing I learned long ago - never make assumptions! It will turn around and bite you in the ass, more times than not. Calmly express your disappointment, but admit that you made assumptions instead of having a discussion with him and nailing down concrete plans. In the future, change this...