Search results

he is an amazing person - but the hard facts about his behaviour at the moment start to begin painting a different picture. And due to the LDR it's hard to reinforce our relationship. Moving back is not an option as I'll start a job in about a month here, and about a month later - beginning of...

Hey Kevin, yip, that's him - there you have the super bumpy start of this attempt. But to bring you up to speed, this was August last year, we decided to give us and the open relationship another try - we actually made a pretty awesome decision tree to have all our options in front of us...

thanks for your thoughts! We had LDR during a long time of our relationship, so we are rather fine with it in general. both independend people which communicate frequent and good. It was never that far, and yes, the physical part is super important for me - you know that "5 love languages"...

Hi together, My partner of almost 10 years and me come from a pretty bumpy poly start - with two attempts that failed due to bad communication and self care in the last 3 years. After a lot of work we gave it a try again beginning of this year and it's now in general working out more smooth -...

It's good to get all your input. I honestly didn't mean it judgemental or offensive - I was just direct. And I see it not only as getting a hand job but more in general as promoting prostitution - and this is such a multifaceted and difficult topic. I'm actually not sure how to phrase it...

I actually didn't realize that this would count as backing someone into a corner. :confused: I didn't bring it up. He told the story. And our temporary roomie asked, and he aswered freely (and also in a way like 'gosh, never'). It was a pretty relaxed atmosphere till that. I mean we shared...

Yesterdy evening we finally had a talk (as Ana was out for a theater night). Honest. Heart to heart. It wasn't a 'nice' one - but somehow it got us closer as we were before. We are both on the same side regarding, that something just doesn't feel right about our relationship at the moment -...

really sorry to hear, how your night went down. As all the others already stated, it is not acceptable to be physical abusive - it might not hurt you, but it crosses a line. Get some rest. Really. Sometimes we think there is no one around - but that's rarely the case. There are (for sure)...

Sorry, that your are feeling sad. Maybe try to not overthink it. You all just meed and try to catch up and get a feeling how everybody is doing at the moment - just be in the moment. All the best!

it's a plan, and it's a start. I can use that uncertainty to get my ass down to solve some stuff - this is something positive at least. We will profit either way. I need to figure out, why I am holding on that strong to the relationship. And we can enjoy a little less responsibility when we...

GalaGirl, thanks for your advice. I really appreciate all the time you invest here - it keeps me on my toes and gets me thinking. Thanks a lot for that. Yes, a break up and moving home is possible, I have a good support system. Yes, I miss home a lot. and a big YES, he needs to solve that...

I get that. those thoughts drain so much energy and time. Does your wife know, how you are handling it? Maybe just minimize it to checking this forum once a day (morning/evening) and writing something down at a second occasion and then - focus and get shit done. be easy on you: it's not your...

ask me or him, or anyone in our friend group like, 1,5 years ago - before that whole Firas thing. I think we would have all agreed, that this 'love is not enough' is something we would have given as advice. As I said, we lived in a LDR for most of the time in order for us to pursue our...

I totally agree on that - but it's just such a big surprise, that all this change was somehow triggered by those events. I really can not understand that, not after those big and frequent talks. I mean the topic of an open relationship has been in the making for about 3 years. yes, that point...

yes, that would help him and he needs that - but I'm not sure if it helps him (and us) in the long run. We didn't speak of it for months (before we went back home and all blew up) and now we are not speaking about it neither. The problem might be, that I do not believe, that he is over that...

yes, that's what I was going for. It might help you and takes the pressure a little bit of her. what I wouldn't be sure of, if and how I would be communicating that with my partner. I mean everyone is inclined to have private thoughts, but in a tense situation, a 'secret' journal could be a bit...

In general i have to say that Saroo is a wonderful person. He is full of love and happiness, he enjoys the small stuff and goes for the big stuff. He made me a better person, is always at my side. He works on his issues and is in thoughtful. We evolved so much together. As i shortly mentioned...

I totally understand how it all went down. But I also understand, that she needs time to process that. She likes her, you like her. She is happy, that you like her. Than you are honest, that you like her even more. She is happy about your honesty and confused by your feelings. She might...

reading through your story, I also have to say that you probably rushed it a bit. Especially the part where all of your three wanted to be really tight. What I actually could see as a problem is the part, that you (two) where first interested in that person before the topic of a non monogamous...

Thanks for your toughts, Jpk83. I actually read your thread - I guess I read most of the threads around here during the last couple of months. I think we can definitely align in terms of that 'what am I gonna do, to make it right with everyone' feeling, that is overwhelming, scary and makes -...