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All expectations are not equal. Expecting someone you love to acknowledge your birthday more than just in passing is not an expectation on the same level as signing a lease and paying money every month for an apartment together. The birthday expectation isn't going to be an ongoing expense, it's...

My other partner besides my husband is a fairly casual relationship, we get together for a few hours once or twice a month, so certainly way more casual than you and Dags. However, this past year we've gotten less casual than we were before (we've built a D/s relationship, which we didn't have...

I was only commenting on the Mormon thing because you had said that you weren't sure he had lived with his ex before marriage. It's highly unlikely that he did, for the reasons I stated above, so I can easily see that living with someone who he is romantically involved with equals something akin...

One more thing. Am I remembering correctly that Warman used to be Mormon and his ex wife still is? If so, I can virtually guarantee that they did not live together before marriage. Not only that, there's a huge chance that both of them were virgins on their wedding night, especially if they got...

I'm glad you were able to talk to Warman about my post. Like I said, it was just something that occurred to me that I wanted to share, in case it was relevant to what is happening and you hadn't thought of it. If it's not relevant, that's okay too :)

I was thinking about this and how you had said that you are finding that Warman shows less desire to move with you as time goes on while I was reading a response you had written on another thread. I started wondering if the depression and waffling about moving started when Warman moved into your...

Neti pots kind of freak me out too, that's why I haven't used one. :D

If you're looking for things you can do for sinus infections without taking antibiotics, I've always heard good things about neti pots, though I haven't used one myself. The treatment that helps me the most is to mix a little bit of hydrogen peroxide with water (my mix is usually close to one...

After my ex boyfriend and I had been on a few dates in a very short amount of time, my husband and his girlfriend expressed an interest in meeting to get to know this person I was so obviously into (he met all of us at a party, but they hadn't interacted much with him). So I invited him over to...

My husband and I have had personal spending money for longer than we've been poly. Once we became poly, we added a little extra money to the personal spending money, mostly because my first relationship was long distance, so we upped our spending money to account for me spending money to go see...

<hugs> I remember these years so well, even though my kids are 20 and 22 now. They are the reason why I'm so careful with birth control and take plan b if something happens. I love my children, I've enjoyed every stage of their lives, but I am so happy I'mdone with the very exhausting first...

Dan Savage has said that he's been to plenty of commitment ceremonies for polyamorous couples but never to a five year anniversary party, so he doesn't think poly relationships last. I'd love to know how many 5 year anniversary parties he's been to for monogamous couples, because in my mind, who...

From what I've read on other threads, you seem a little worried that people will think you're a freak for loving two brothers. You already seem aware of the issues that getting involved with your brother-in-law could cause, since your lives are already so intwined. So I'm not going to address...

I'm on the other end of the parenting spectrum from you, my children are young adults. They were teenagers when we opened up our marriage. However, before we opened our marriage, my husband was in love with one of his best friends and the way he treated his relationship with her was very...

Glad you're feeling a little tiny bit better. Any improvement is good :-)

That sucks Claire, about Dags pulling a silent act after you told him about your decision to go back on meds. While I haven't gone through exactly the same thing, I went through something similar when I went back on meds after that festival. I had been talking to a guy I'd met at a poly speed...

My husband and I have been poly for 7 years. Not once in that entire time has either of us watched the other having sex with another partner. Occasionally we've heard things from the room where a couple is having sex, but we've never done it on purpose. To say that you aren't poly if you're not...

I am incredibly thankful I was facing away from the area it took place in when it happened. I also purposefully avoided (and still avoid) any video from that night and I've only read one of the news articles on it, mostly so I could make sure it had enough information so I could email it to my...

Yeah, I'm not sure I'd have decided to have kids if I hadn't been raised Mormon. I'm sure I wouldn't have had them as early. I'll always be impressed that I actually had the nerve to stand up to that overwhelming pressure 9 years before I left the church and say that two children was enough for...

There's been news articles for the last 5 or 6 years that talk about a new male birth control that I think Japan has developed. It's a shot that contains something that would block the tubes that sperm comes through and then there's a second shot that reverses the effects of the first one. It's...