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    My polyamorous journey

    I adopted a three year old cat named Lucy 3 weeks ago from the animal rescue organization that works with a nearby pet store. She's a beautiful Calico. She was a little skittish and standoffish for the first few days or so but now she's friendly and loving with me and my boys. She's still...
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    Love languages

    While my top score is quality time, whether I'm answering with a specific relationship in mind or just generalizing how I feel, the order of the other ones vary, depending on which relationship I'm thinking of when taking the quiz or if I'm generalizing. Both in general and in my relationship...
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    revenge is not my game

    Shaya, her husband has only been poly the last two years, not the entire time they've been married. Edit: or are you referring to what she said about before she was married? I had two other boyfriends while engaged to my husband. I don't tend to include that in my summary of my poly experience...
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    One Mistake at a Time

    It's possible that he's a little tired of talking about it and just wants to enjoy the time away from home without any processing. It's understandable for him to want to enjoy his vacation. It doesn't mean you're outgrowing him or that he doesn't care but if you've been talking about it a lot...
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    Sodomy laws

    What is a double first cousin? Their parents are both your relatives by blood? Like if my sister had married my husband's brother, their kids would have been my kids' double first cousins?
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    The story of Spork.

    My Mazda 3 handles the snow alright (I live in Utah and have driven it 3 winters and haven’t had an issue). However, I'm not a nervous driver in the snow, usually, so I don't know if you should go on my word. I do know that it tends to slip some if the tires are a bit worn but not absolutely...
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    The story of Spork.

    I love my 2014 Mazda 3, so there's a second vote for that car ;)
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    In Mourning

    In contrast to Shaya, I bought "Wired for love" when he brought it up before, because I do find the whole idea of attachment theory as it relates to adult relationships interesting, however, I was not able to make it past the first chapter. It is very monogamously inclined, which I knew before...
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    "falling in love" vs "growing in love"

    I had been about to come back to this after reading something on another thread that clarified where I thought you were coming from for me. Someone had said something about "being in love with each other" that made me realize that you were referring to that situation when talking about in love...
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    "falling in love" vs "growing in love"

    I'm still confused on how you are defining in love with someone. Are you saying that phrase means that both of you have to love each other in order for it to be true? That in love with is referring to the interaction between the emotions of the two people? I ask because most people don't refer...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    A magnesium supplement helped me immensely when I was doing a high protein, low carb diet last month. The aches and pains were greatly reduced.
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    Friends and lovers

    My boys are a little further apart (25 months versus 19) but I have enjoyed having them be close enough in age that they are friends. My little brother had kids about 5 years apart and, while they adore each other, it's not the same type of interaction my kids have. It is chaotic the first...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    I think short term disability is usually 2/3rds of your regular rate of pay. At least it's been that with every company my husband or I worked at that offered it. I haven't actually ever used it. I was on a leave of absence with workman's comp last year and the way the health insurance premium...
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    The story of Spork.

    Brandon Sanderson is the author who finished the wheel of time series after Robert Jordan's death. Everyone I've spoken to has really loved his work on that series also, even die hard fans. I tried to read the Wheel of Time series but got bogged down in book 3 or 4 and couldn't bring myself to...
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    Relationship education

    I don't think that relationships should be taught in schools, mostly because then you face the issue of who decides the curriculum and who decides what a relationship is. I see the same issues with this as we see with sex education in schools and not teaching anything beyond abstaining in highly...
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    How to deal with being shamed by society's labels

    I live in Utah, which is an at will employment state, which means that I can get fired from my job for any reason my employer wants to, unless it's protected by a specific law. It's not just other countries that have these types of rules. And unemployment, while it's better than nothing, caps...
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    Miserable, Doing it wrong. No idea what to do next

    The good majority of our money is still pooled together but it does help to have some that is mine and some that is his. Before we started having individual spending money, we just had a lump sum of family spending money which usually ended up being spent by my husband, because he had more...
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    Miserable, Doing it wrong. No idea what to do next

    Remnant, you asked for suggestions on what to do so that your wife doesn't feel trapped in your marriage because of financial dependence, in a way that wouldn't feel like you were setting her up so that you can leave (i.e. your reference to her feelings regarding schooling). If you can...
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    the 12 hour post editing limit

    The only threads I am subscribed to are ones that I've replied to. I don't know if there's a different way you can also subscribe to threads, but I know it happens when you either post a new thread or respond to an existing one.
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    FMF vs MFM

    Speaking to what Spork was saying about women and multiple orgasms (and the more you have the more you want), my ex-boyfriend had a very, very short recovery period after sex, often as short as ten minutes. My husband, by contrast, has a much longer one, so I was used to having sex and orgasms...
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