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Does it matter? Let's review. Okay, so you've established a relationship. It went fast. Hey, that's how I am too. No worries. Oops! I guess there was a worry. Alright, you're willing to look past it because it actually works in your favor. Why didn't he tell you about his one other person...

I was reading through this and thinking to myself "this is pretty shitty" and about to tell you what I would do and then I got to this: WHAT!? How long have you known this guy? You say two months and a couple weeks (let's just round up to 3 months). Then he's on a trip for X weeks, that time...

I was using categories as an example. You should discuss everything. Leaving stuff to chance is silly. Things that must be discussed on a case-by-case go in "soft limits" category. Things that will always be no go in hard limit category. You will never be alright if he wants to date your mom...

It would be great if no one ever had negative emotions. That's not going to happen. It's an unrealistic goal. Tell him to get over it. This is hard. Being poly is not as "easy" as being mono. Lots more people to consider. Lots of feelings. Lots of lots of lots of lots of stuff. See what I'm...

Kyle = Kyle Kat = Katie Made the account when we were both planning on using the same account. That didn't happen, and she went with Rymmare. I chose to keep the name because A. I couldn't think of anything I liked better that wouldn't be identifying and B. Nothing is more important to me than...

Second order of business - Talk to her. Find out what she's uncomfortable with. Talk to them both. Work through it. It sounds like she's being jealous or having issues sharing, which is normal, but not healthy. If he's oblivious, you need to make him aware so he can address it. I couldn't...

This is it exactly! When I am out or when we are at a party or whatever and it's not just us sitting at home, I forget that I have a huge bill due or that I have to repair the sink or whatever. I'm not sad because I'm around her! Thank you. You're right. I need to remember she's there for me...

Thanks! I did a pretty shitty job of it at first today but was able to save myself. I wish she saw it like you did. When she's sad it makes it impossible for me to get it off my mind and enjoy myself. So the very thing she worries about isn't happening. Edit: to clarify, I worry about her so...

I'm just a big fan of the brush strokes and lack of ordered lines and blah blah that the style provides. I want to do my own thing, not adhere to some set of rules. :D Hey... why I am I here again?

I am typically drawn to people with "issues". I don't know why it is, but I always have been. It should be a red flag, but my nature is to help everyone I can "get better" and even though I'm not at all equipped to do that, I still try. I'm not really sure what our responses are supposed to be...

Wednesday - Half Weak Last time I posted things were going pretty well between us and the other couple. The next time we saw them, that kind of fell apart. Nothing they did, but we were all moving way too fast and everyone was just a little uncomfortable. I ended up saying something to...

I recently screwed up and shared something from my wife with the girl I was seeing. The result was that now everyone involved has backed way off, and while that was probably a good thing, I feel like I should have handled it better. Definitely let the person with the problem address it, instead...

I hear ya. I'm an impressionist myself. Not at your level, but I used some watercolor in art class in high school to make an amazing castle and open field painting. Water colors are my favorite medium. They mix and match easily.

I realized today that although I am not technically a secondary to anyone, the girl I have been pining over has been less communicative (she's busy with work) and its resulting in a generally poorer mood for me. Secondary status is hard. Definitely tread with caution of you choose to go that route.

I wanted to be a jerk and post a picture of the autistic guy that drew all of Manhattan after a 20 minute helicopter ride, in perfect detail, but I'm on my phone and also that would be incredibly insensitive. Your artwork is pretty outstanding. Good job. Personally I like the girl reading the book.

I agree on the single vs solo. Sounds to me like she's single and needs to accept it and become solo before she can be happy as a second, first, or anything at all with anyone at all. When hope is lost all else fails. Don't give up hope!

Sometimes I wish my mind worked like yours (or, at least, my wife's mind). It would be awesome if we could check in like this and have conversations and use metaphors and get past difficult conversations this way. Don't get me wrong, there's nothing wrong with how I think or how my wife thinks...

I like this. I'm going to try this with my wife. :) Thanks again GG for your insightfulness!

Don't do that! Sometimes it's rough, sometimes it's not. I've gotten discouraged many times, but I always end up finding what I'm looking for. Just play it more cool. Don't actively look, just network and make friends. Someone will come along.

It could be that they moved and she had to give up all three. It could be a number of things. We should let Perks explain before we jump to the "your husband owns you like slave" line of thought. (Not trying to call you out, just think we should let Perks elaborate more)