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Oh sweetie, I’m sorry you’re in such a position. When you’re in a relationship of any kind, mono or poly, it’s perfectly ok to communicate when you don’t think you’re getting enough time and attention. You say you worry about “nagging” and I completely sympathize. But you can be proud of the...

Hi there, Reading what you wrote made my heart go Ow. I have felt that pain of getting one of seven. Everyone is right. There is enormous value in learning to be alone. Sadly, the process of getting to that zen mountain top is largely unpleasant. I've spent the last year climbing that mess...

Dinner for Three and Dumb Panic Last night he came over and issued an invitation from Main Lady (ML) to come over and grill vegitables that evening. We have never before crossed the streams, so to speak, and the prospect filled me with the most amazing sensation. Pure. Animal. Terror. He...

Thank you for the awesome feedback, everyone. I'm indeed trying to stay calm and worry less about things. Amazing to me how much can be chalked up to NRE. Mundane world doesn't really teach one to think in those terms, very new concept to me to think "this too shall pass." Cause, of course, it...

She's mono, his Main Lady for years, and I'm starting to think maybe Fella projects a pheromone that turns women into devoted monos--like some cult-leader superpower. Let me first admit that I was once a proud and reckless slut. Love sex, love love, always been that way. But now that I've...

Haha, thanks vodkafan, what a treat to hear. You're probably completely right. She, however, has no interest in reaching for a friendship. I'm starting to think she's staunchly pretending this isn't real, wants to know little to nothing about me to enforce that. The deal is she "doesn't like...

There were two sunrises this morning. The first was touching grey or blue or green Wet and distant as the iris in your even eyes. Why did god appoint a man to lord my heart who's eyes will always be in love with too many colors? Lying under the first white sun I told you I would salt my earth...

"No, with polyamory, it's not about infidelity..." "I think you need to let go of the wistful hoping that the situation was different." -- Oh god, that's the nail on the head right there! This love's a gift as it is, I see that. I just sort of feel I've got to follow the pain, chase it to...

I'll have to redraft my entire personality. Damn.

Ha, thanks Yoxi. My family maintains that it's an Irish trait, to religiously laugh at your sorrows. And to everyone with insight, interest and advice, thank you again. It's really a treat to have a sounding board with such depth. Fella's no shallow fool, he's just a hu-man. I worry. Am...

Hold my hand like it's an ice cream cone And we'll melt, flavor the sidewalk with strawberries, sweet and filthy as the sweaty gutters, soft as the air that holds us.

Hang from my mouth like a cigarette. Pull you past my lips and Taste you on my teeth tomorrow. The shards cut sack holes in my lungs to rush you in my blood—every second faster. Transfuse heat please exchange your toxins For mine Give me wrinkles. Seeing you is having a lighter flame Held...

"Does he also love the woman he’s lived with all this time? Did he know her when she was younger and continued to love her as she grew older?" (EpsilonLyr, thank you and I agree with you about the internet. I am very grateful for all the help; it's a huge boon. Internet means more human...

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Because the man I adore and I don't actually have sex, I have a semi-regular thing with a friend, "TL." He's someone I've respected for a long time, for his music and general social charms. So *1. Respect, in as many forms as it can be felt. However, we have absolutely different tastes in...

Same song sung by different singers, I like what you're saying. I'm trying to appreciate solidarity of human heartache instead of dwelling only on the personally tricky bits. Being aloud to experience reality, especially when it involves love, that's enough compensation.

Got me! Haha, you're right, a liberal arts major should know her parts of speech better! While envy is a simple pining for something someone else has (it's a noun or verb), jealousy is defined by rivalry and resentment toward another (an adj). You're right, envy is much easier, on the whole...

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Ditto? Sindris, I think we're in parallel situations. Therefore, what I've got to say is more along the lines of commiseration than advice, hope that's okay. Here's how I work it in my own head. Envy is insecurity, right, it's fear? The fear that there isn't enough to go around, so you can't...

Nice to meet you! It is a good forum, I agree.