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This is the part that I think is YOUR issue. Not all people in their 20s lie and cheat. It sucks that you've had bad experiences and made bad choices, but not everyone does. Your history of entering and staying in unhealthy relationships is a YOU thing to work on - and you should! Everyone...

Honestly, I think Mags' situation is way different than Biff's. Like it or not, there is a power imbalance between older men and younger women. There is also a power imbalance between an established business owner and someone just starting their potential career. I am only in my mid-30s and...

I personally think it's only unethical to continue if you don't make this clear to her. She has a right to know that your husband has that kind of power over her relationship with you. That is, unfortunately, one of the biggest risks of dating married poly folks though. I've been the target of...

The thing about the terms primary/ secondary is that they can mean different things to different people. Some use it to describe the emotional connection - so your partner might feel you are the person primarily meeting her needs that way. Some use it as a signifier of entanglement - like I have...

I have been sick fairly constantly since my last post. It has been miserable. I am finally feeling pretty good though and plan to drag Boy out hiking this weekend. It'll be good for both of our mental health. Hubby has a crush on a mutual friend of ours. They are the parent of one of LG's...

I got my updated covid vaccine along with my flu shot. I have appointments scheduled for hubby and LG as well. I've asked Boy if he wants me to have his login info so I can do so for him as well. His insurance/network has changed recently so I no longer have access. He has put getting me set...

I lived in Indy for a few years, over a decade ago. There was a decent sized nonmonogamous crowd that i can only imagine has grown. The overlap between the swinger and poly folks was significant. Overall I really enjoyed it, other than it being Indiana lol Summers get really humid. Don't...

Grampa clearly has no desire to actually act ethically or kindly towards his girlfriend. Why join a forum about polyamory if you're only interested in cheating?

You are having an affair. Stop trying to excuse it with your sex drive and your gf's health issues. You know this hurts your gf yet you continue. This is not any kind of ethical nonmonogamy. You claim to love these women yet behave in ways that show little to no care for them (talking poorly of...

Fuck covid. I really wish regular boosters were a thing already. I've been masking and avoiding crowded indoor spaces again because it's so bad in my area. Fingers crossed it stays away from me. My lungs are tired.

So this isn't polyamory. There is nothing ethical happening here. She's essentially openly cheating now instead of bothering to hide it since getting caught. He is cheating on his clueless wife. Your kids are how old? They can't be enjoying this situation either. If I were you? I wouldn't...

The summer has flown by. It's been fun but exhausting. I had a major illness that slowed me down for a month as well. Rough. We are hoping to plan some international travel next year. That is new for all of us. I've been to Canada but that's it. Hubby and Boy have never left the states...

LG has started referring to Boy as her "part-time parent." She says he's like a parent when he's here but is like a friend when he's not here. I think that's adorable. Boy was worried that Hubby would be upset by that. Hubby has no opinion on it and is happy the child is surrounded by...

We LOVE taking family vacations! Hubby and I get dedicated kid-free time, Boy feels like he's being helpful, LG gets the memories with all her people, I get to stress about the finances of travel less, Hubby doesn't feel pressured to do the outdoorsy stuff. We all win!

They said they wouldn't see me unless it was all of us, so yes, I replied that it would only be "fair" if they didn't see each other without me either - otherwise it is just a big old double standard from the get go. Lol I might be weird, but I enjoy being a unicorn now and then. I've dated a...

Hubby and I have kept up on date nights and have a long weekend planned next month. Boy will be spending 3 nights with LG and the pets for us. He will have to take her to 3 different activities and is both dreading it (lots of people) and looking forward to it (being there for the kid, letting...

I was poly before my kid was born, so my situation is very different than yours, but the time commitment is whatever time you need to maintain the relationships you want. For me, I spend two days/one night a week with my non-nesting partner. Right now, that translates to Friday into Saturday or...

It's easier if there are no legal marriages, in my opinion. Set everything up independently - medical proxy/ representatives, estate planning, property ownership, etc. There are legal ways to make ALL involved adults have input without the legal marriage confusing things. Ideally, no one will...

A very relaxing, very decadent weekend with Boy happened. Sport is going well. First competition for me happened and LG moved up a level. She has been placing on the lower end, but still placing, which is amazing. Her hard work is being recognized by people outside of our small group 💖 Hubby...

As a married poly person... I'm looking for someone whose personality meshes with mine and whose schedule can work with mine. Most married poly men don't fit that BECAUSE... schedules fucking suck. I've also had my share of experiences with wives/cohabiting partners ending up having a major...