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My partner of many years is Kevin. Sometimes I call him K in here. Or I call him my longtime sweetheart. Or other names like that. But he's Kevin. There's no need to conceal his identity with something like a K. But I may use K now and then, just because. Sometimes I'm reluctant to share...

To reflect, according to one of its multiple dictionary definitions, is … "to think, meditate, or ponder." You're invited to listen in as do just that. And if you want you can comment on my reflections or ask questions. I'm going to give myself a very expansive space in which to reflect on...

While reading in the forum today it occurred to me that sometimes people will offer or ask for advice when what might be of greater use is what might be called collaborative inquiry. By collaborative inquiry, I mean exploring a topic or question together not so much in order to get to advice...

I'm glad you're not choosing to bail out of the forum, GR. You're a good communicator, I think, and we need you (and people like you) here to help us sustain a good, safe and kind space for sharing. In reading your OP, my impression is that there are two major topics and some relatively...

Hi BigSven - Article? Do you mean what I posted immediately above? If so, what was it I said which you are responding to? I'm curious. I'm not sure I follow what you mean.

I'm starting -- again -- to read this book. Sex and the Intelligence of the Heart: Nature, Intimacy, and Sexual Energy by Julie McIntyre https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/14483616-sex-and-the-intelligence-of-the-hea I owned a copy of this book years ago... but somehow it disappeared. I...

Fact collecting me? It sounds like you suspect him of nefarious reasons for asking me questions. But I "fact collected" him, too. In fact, we've been sharing thousands of bits of information about one another -- and that's simply what normal, healthy people do when they are getting to know one...

It is distinctly possible that I'm at the very first start, seedling stage, of something more substantial with another, apart from Kevin. Like, ever. As in, this never happened before. No one has ever opened to me this way since I've been with Kevin, and I've not done that either. Not really...

There's not very much usual about he or I, so we had an unusual first date. I took the train to his town; we had breakfast with conversation (I barely got a chance to chew my food, as he kept asking me questions about things I'm interested in which I -- naturally -- can speak about eternally...

Thanks for your kind, loving concern and honest expression of experience -- and warnings -- Sabrina! If my friend is a liar, I'll discover such soon enough. I doubt that he is, though. But he might be! I've been tricked (non in a romantic context) by one a-hole "friend" who turned out to be a...

Good words, Kevin. It's funny (slightly strange) to get sound advice about this from a straight guy -- so thanks for being understanding about us queer guys. I just had another email round with him, sharing with him my latest unfoldment about it all. It's quite remarkable how direct and honest...

I'm going to try and bring this thread out of hibernation. I just read this: Bi Men Are Not Considered Attractive, New Study Says https://bisexual.org/bi-men-are-not-considered-attractive-new-study-says/ … and it made me a bit sad. What I know for certain is that bisexuality (in men and...

Step 1: Sincerely reflect on the possibility of including the verbatim message which you have just typed out (above) in your 'profile'. Step 2: If having decided that's really, really stupid, isolate the most stupid part and alter that … but leave the rest. Consider posting that. Step 3...

I'm deliberately leaving the topic title broad, but mostly what I'm wanting is to listen in (and chime in occasionally) as folks talk about questions like "Is it ever too soon to have sex while dating someone?". I suspect the answer to that would both vary widely and would be qualified by...

So I waited and waited for his winter break and for the day in that time when he'd come visit me. Winter break came and went, and he made no contact. Since I was the one always contacting him, I decided it was his turn to contact me, as he said he would when he had time to be with me. I sent...

So what we call The Bible was created mainly to concentrate power and authority into the hands of only a few. What a surprise! ;)

"Today, like a ship entering the storm, industrial civilization faces the first symptoms of energy depletion and climate change induced collapse. In this unprecedented context, the documentary film Once You Know asks disturbing questions : Are there better ways of collapsing than others? What is...

That was why I liked that article enough to post it here. I like science. A lot. It sure beats religion, myth and superstition as a guide to reality. Problem is, science is often corrupted by people with a lot of money and... an agenda. (Usually to make even more money.) Money is the only...

Not being a Christian, myself, nor feeling supportive of the dominator dominant culture, I wouldn't choose to say "our" and "we" in this context. Organized Christianity has, indeed, been among the most oppressive, brutal, destructive and violent culture that ever there was. It seems more than...