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This is just an invitation to conversation -- and I don't want to post the first response. I'd rather just invite the conversation and then leap into it if and when it is up and going.

What about the non-sexual aspects of your relationship? How's that going? Is there love between you? As in real love?

Most of us don't really remember how many times we fell down when learning to walk, but I suppose a few of us do remember. More likely, we remember scuffing our knees when falling off our bikes when learning how to ride them -- or at least learning how to ride them without training wheels. The...

Right. Moving from poly-sexery to polyamory is a journey, and we can't learn it all at once -- any more than we can learn all of chess or gardening in a weekend workshop. It's perfectly understandable. I'm a polyamorous person by deep inclination and core sensibilities. So I look at the world...

The fact remains (or seems) that the word "polyamory" suggests a socio-cultural-political Big Tent which sketches a very (very!) wide spectrum. The particular spectrum which I have in mind here (though many other spectra also apply) is the one with the word "sex" at one end and the word "love"...

I read this thread carefully at first and then began merely skimming, then lost interest -- mainly because there was a lot of double standard stuff going on in the story without really being directly addressed as a problem. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Double_standard Has the double standard...

Thanks Evie. Her life is not yet fully "portable," but she is working on it, with my loving support and encouragement. She has so many talents and skills to offer on a website with many services offered, from German language teaching to English speakers/writers (and vice versa), to "human...

ewn1108 - Has the situation improved?

She and I are also touch junkies. We love and need touch, very much. This is why our plan is to have her live part time -- for months on end -- here in the states, with me spending as much time there as is necessary for us not to be apart much. She has some very portable internet-based work...

Hmm. My last post here was made on Mar 29, 2019. Been a while. I know folks in this forum are generally very dubious and skeptical about long distance relationships (LDRs) turning out well, but I now believe I may be an exception to the rule, because my new sweetie (of about ten weeks from...

Umm. My new girlfriend lives in Germany. And I live in New Mexico, USA. So a two hour drive seems extremely nearby to me. LOL. Neither of us want to end our relationship just on account of there being an Atlantic Ocean between us. But neither of us have easy answers to the conundrum of it all...

Hi KDT. You're in Albuquerque, correct? I'm in Santa Fe, just a little North. Perhaps one day we can have tea or coffee in ABQ? How long have you had a g.f. in England? What's it been like for you, in greater detail..., if that's okay to ask.

"If I had one super power it would be teleportation!" Deep empathy and sympathy there!

We're SO in love that we're both taking all kinds of risks in order to follow our love where it takes us. It's a wild ride, and a great joy! Definitely a very strongly heart-centered kind of love, with the crotch energy valued but not in the driver's seat in the least.

Thanks for your words Ariakas.

Thanks, Magdlyn! My g.f. quickly got over her concern about how others might perceive and respond to our age difference. I can completely empathize with her initial shock at learning how big the age gap was, and how friends and family might find it ... well, weird.

My new girlfriend is way, way younger than I am. She's 34, and I'm 58. Initially, when she learned of my age, she was taken aback. The gap sort of freaked her out at first. But not so much for reasons of attraction to me, but mainly because of the fear of what others would think about us with...

Hi Ariakas. Nice to see you again! Touch is hugely important to both myself and my new girlfriend, too. It's now pretty difficult to have a whole ocean between us! In time we may have to figure out a plan so that we can be together physically a LOT more than we have been! Ideally, if all goes...

I've long said I'd never consider any sort of long distance romantic relationship, not even with anyone several counties away, but now I'm in love with a woman who lives in Germany (and I live in New Mexico, USA). We've never met face-to-face, but have mostly just exchanged a lot of words...

One can be a very good, serious and competent student of an interdisciplinary (or transdisciplinary) field of study without having published much in that field. That would be me. I've been preparing to publish … for years. I'm an "outsider" -- an independent scholar working in human ecology as...