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That definition of "closed marriage" seems to me far too narrow and restrictive. In my experience, it is unusual for couples to close themselves off from even very strong emotional connections with others, including profound loving friendships. I was bewildered when I learned that one of my...

This is just an invitation to conversation -- and I don't want to post the first response. I'd rather just invite the conversation and then leap into it if and when it is up and going.

The fact remains (or seems) that the word "polyamory" suggests a socio-cultural-political Big Tent which sketches a very (very!) wide spectrum. The particular spectrum which I have in mind here (though many other spectra also apply) is the one with the word "sex" at one end and the word "love"...

My new girlfriend is way, way younger than I am. She's 34, and I'm 58. Initially, when she learned of my age, she was taken aback. The gap sort of freaked her out at first. But not so much for reasons of attraction to me, but mainly because of the fear of what others would think about us with...

I've long said I'd never consider any sort of long distance romantic relationship, not even with anyone several counties away, but now I'm in love with a woman who lives in Germany (and I live in New Mexico, USA). We've never met face-to-face, but have mostly just exchanged a lot of words...

As a bi man, I've been often rather astonished at how little discussion one can find, or participate in, anywhere, about sexual objectification in the gay/bi/queer male milieu. One can find plenty -- from feminists and feminism -- about this problem in the het milieu. In the gay/bi/queer male...

A thread for thinking out loud about gender.

A place to share stories of April Fools jokes--, your own and those you've heard about. When I "google" this topic I get mostly an avalanche of corporate / commercial gags meant to get free publicity for brands or products as "news". Let's not pass that crap around, okay? Thanks!

This morning I've been pondering the idea of creating unusual, but hopefully delicious, non-alcoholic drink mixes or blends. I suppose this is due to my enthusiasm about the warming weather in springtime and the fact that my life is becoming much more social lately (again) than it has been...

... a place to post poems, one's own or another's.

To reflect, according to one of its multiple dictionary definitions, is … "to think, meditate, or ponder." You're invited to listen in as do just that. And if you want you can comment on my reflections or ask questions. I'm going to give myself a very expansive space in which to reflect on...

While reading in the forum today it occurred to me that sometimes people will offer or ask for advice when what might be of greater use is what might be called collaborative inquiry. By collaborative inquiry, I mean exploring a topic or question together not so much in order to get to advice...

I'm starting -- again -- to read this book. Sex and the Intelligence of the Heart: Nature, Intimacy, and Sexual Energy by Julie McIntyre https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/14483616-sex-and-the-intelligence-of-the-hea I owned a copy of this book years ago... but somehow it disappeared. I...

I'm deliberately leaving the topic title broad, but mostly what I'm wanting is to listen in (and chime in occasionally) as folks talk about questions like "Is it ever too soon to have sex while dating someone?". I suspect the answer to that would both vary widely and would be qualified by...

"She Blinded Me With Science" is (was?) a mediocre pop song from Thomas Dolby, which is memorable for the same reason we remember certain tv ads from twenty or forty years ago. The song sounded much like an avertisement jingle, actually. I thought that title was slightly more interesting than...

I did a "tag" search on "mental health," but didn't find a thread which seemed appropriate for my question. So I'm starting this thread so we have one very broadly conceived location for questions like mine on mental health issues in relationships, generally. I'll put "mental health" in the...

I just attempted to revive two LONG disused threads that are nearing decade age or have surpassed it. I arrived here first on 03-12-2009. It's nearing ten years -- a duck age -- since that date. If a duck were to lay one egg every single day for ten years, that'd be 3,650 eggs, roughly...

Wikipedia defines etiquette as " ... a code of behavior that delineates expectations for social behavior according to contemporary conventional norms within a society, social class, or group." In the Wikipedia article on etiquette, under the heading of "Politeness," it says, Naturally, at...

Flakes, of course, are folks who don't follow through on what they say they're gonna do, whether it be to meet up with you for a "date" or [ fill in the blank ]. Flakiness (it seems to me!) used to be ... occasional in my life. It would happen now and then. Often rescheduling would happen and...

I just read (well, part of) an article which begins, "There’s nothing weird about owning a sex doll. Most of us would, if they were cheaper." (Source: https://medium.com/@JessicaLexicus/everyone-should-buy-a-sex-doll-459de0e40c7f ) Okay, I didn't even get far into that article before coming...