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Update It's been awhile since I posted, a lot has gone on in my relationship with BF and with DH. This weekend was the breaking point between me and DH. He gave me an ultimatum to either be with him or with BF. Me and DH relationship has not been going well since April, we have tried off an...

Galagirl, You are correct, right now is not the best time to discuss it further. I can't even concentrate on getting work done today as it is clear this is bothering to the max!

Thanks Galagirl for your insight. I have never been an advocate for DADT model, it doesn't fit into my context of who I am and have discussed this several times to DH. On that note, I have agreed to it, to an extent, specifically if he is sharing that leads to an opening to share back, my...

Happy New Year Everyone! Well I guess I am here wondering why things have to be the way it is. Yesterday after spending a great time with my BF I came home so me and DH could spend new years eve together. We both went out without OSO and said we would spend the evening together with the kids...

Well I guess I misunderstood him when he said he wanted to meet my BF! So the point we are at is he won't meet him but I can bring him around our home and children. He has no problem with any of this as long as he never sees him. I guess it doesn't bring us back to square as he has no...

Thanks everyone for your continued support :) It feels good in knowing there is a community out here! So we have been dealing with what looked like a doom heartbreak. Today after spending am intense shopping day with DH he said that it's clear my BF is making me happy, and in turn he is glad to...

Thanks again for all the feedback! I will update over the weekend for any new developments; but for sure our feelings (OSO and me) are fairly intertwined.

That is what I wish would happen but he won't do that. I asked him to go with me to our local poly meet ups and he doesn't want to, he can be stubborn sometimes.

That is what I thought, I asked him if he is willing not to make it private would it be okay. DH says there is no guarantee for him to do that basically, people will ask who his GF is and so forth. Now, I told DH that when we talked and I learned about where he use to work he stated he hasn't...

Yes, he doesn't want people who he has known or know about his private life.

Yes it is his rule.

Yes he does know him and he has comment on how he was such a great guy. It is not that they are friends, right now but in the past they were, it makes DH uncomfortable. DH has made an assumption that my OSO is going to tell the common people they know about his relationship with me. That is...

Unfortunately, I didn't inquire more into a common friend on my OSO FB page before getting into anything to serious. When I found out about it, I talked to DH about it right away and he remind me he is uncomfortable with it, resulting in him saying I can be with him but not to have him as part...

NO! after its not at all, he is very clear about it.

I wanted to update. I have tried to understand from DH's perspective that a person he knew a few years ago could be such an impact as being "off limits" he reminds me he said that I can have a relationship with him, just not tell him or have him around us or our home. He feels uncomfortable of...

Thanks for your reply! Your right I can see him as long as what I call it, keeping him a secrete :mad: It will be difficult to not talk to him as tomorrow I have an event that he will be at I already mentioned I will have to call upon the ice Gods to help me become stone cold :eek: when I see...

That part might of been confusing, but they are no longer working in the same company, but know common people who all use to work together. I also should of added that a few months ago I had a BF who he more than welcome into our poly family. That person and our relationship just didn't work...

Thanks so much for your reply. It is a previous person he worked with, not now. They have long both separated from that company, but now some common people in the field.

Time has flown by and I forgot that I had signed up to this forum. I wish I would have gotten back to it as this year has been a roller coaster. The only thread I posted was about a situation of being in a relationship with someone who was poly too, long story short me and that individual were...

Hi I am brand new to being poly. I have been married for 10 years to my husband, A, and we have 4 children. We had thought swinging was the lifestyle for us but never actually tried it. We have came close, going out with couples, etc. but we never took it to the next step. So my husband...