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I think it is quite normal to get angry with ourselves at times - but I believe the key is forgiveness, sooner rather than later, and using the opportunity to learn (easier said than done, I know). I too have had some pretty cathartic emotional "outbursts", and, like you, they always seem to...

A few years ago, I left a very strained standard long-term monogamous marriage. The two of us lacked the tools to really work on our issues well, despite visits to individual therapists and marriage counselors. Neither one of us were 100% faithful during the course of our marriage. After I...

I appreciate the varied perspectives that all of you have offered up - lots to chew on for me. As to the member offended by my thread title - well, since I acted in good faith, have already apologized and offered an explanation, it's a non-issue for me going forward. I hope it wont hinder our...

I meant the idea of new folks taking that survey/quiz ... that seemed to be your idea. Yes, Bay Area - and wow, so many groups to pick from. Will probably start with group nearest to me geographically and go from there.

I know I'm dredging up an older thread, but what the heck - I like Belladonna's idea ... 1. Do you want an open relationship? Yes - but more than that, having experienced a long-term strictly monogamous relationship full of dysfunction, I need an open relationship at this point in my life...

I'm not sure the sharing of details (which I don't ask for or require in any way) is where the dissonance lies, but rather the space beforehand where there is a significant difference between what the partners are seeing ... i.e., I'm calling it a date (because everything about it sure looks...

I'm new here as well, but not new to relationships, and poly or not, keeping that kind of information hidden for 4 months would require a very extensive conversation about honesty and respect, followed by a path of rebuilding trust if I thought I was able to manage the unavoidable discomfort...

thank you for the warm welcome ... as a new member I expect to be the one asking for help, advice, wisdom more often than contributing - but you never know, I'm fairly new to alternative relationship structures, but not new to life ;)

I'm a learn-by-doing sort, so here I go ... learning how to communicate with you folks on this forum (hope I don't say anything too noobish ;) ) Quick background: Been with current partner for 3 years and we have agreed from the get-go that our ideas about ethical non-monogamy were very in...

Hey there! Just spent about 20 minutes reading the glossary section - always good to get a taste for the language before one embarks on attempting to communicate. I'm a 52-yr-old guy in a very satisfying and deep relationship with a wonderful woman. When we got together 3 years ago, we...