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I think I answered most of this in the above response. Kitten just doesn't show love the way I'm used to. That was one of the very few times she has actually admitted to jealousy, or the possibility of jealousy, though I would say she has felt it many times, by her behavior. Kitten is so...

Yes, you're correct. Power may not be the right word for this. It has been very difficult for me to come to terms with this. In the end, I have to remind myself that I am not Tech's primary relationship, and I knew that I never would be going into this. I remind myself that some bridges can't be...

Yogurt. Yeast infections are usually caused by a Ph imbalance (antibiotics mess with this badly) and the trick is getting this balance back. You can also get probiotics over the counter these days.

Kitten has the power in our quad, I'd have to say. We all tread carefully around her. I mainly do so in order to not make things worse on the guys. The biggest power she has is over the individual relationships. If something were to happen to end things between her and Gator, she has plainly...

I quad is two cross couples. While Kitten is bi, I'm not. So, she has a romantic relationship with my husband, Gator, and I have a romantic relationship with her husband, Tech. I've been told that quad configurations are not as common because they are more difficult to maintain. I do see the...

Hello, yes, I can have solid opinions on some things. My avatar...started using that a couple of years ago around halloween and I just like it too much to change it. I use it most places now. It's cool that it reminds you of someone you love.

I've avoided this thread because I've addressed it before. Then it dawned on me that I do not think I have addressed it on this forum. Yes, we landed in a polyamorous relationship via swinging. No, I do not think the two camps are mutually exclusive to each other. I do know of swingers who are...

This one sentence is a big thing for me and really the thing I try to convey most to those who are asking me about poly. I run across those who want a definite "how does this work" answer and those who have preconceived notions about what it means to be poly. I try to get them to understand that...

I have to agree with Mono on both counts.

Polyfidelity.... that's us. However, I think it means different things to some of us. We descibe ourselves as such because it's something we can all agree on. I find that I don't really see it as a sexual thing. Part of us do. Me, I guess I see it more as abiding/honoring what we have agreed...

I guess that could be said for me. I don't particularly like labels but some are necessary to communicate your feelings and thoughts with others. My relationships are by far more important than any ideal I have about being poly.

I originally set out for the four of us to have a blog together where we would each post things. We weren't really creative with a name. No one else posts much anywhere, except me. I just kept that name to be consistent with most everything I am involved in on the internet with regards to the...

I see why you view this as a victory. And you are correct. What a loving act that was. Thank you for sharing.

Mono, I have a bit of a different thought on this than I think has been offered as of yet. Trust Redpepper. You are the way you are (that is true for each of us). Redpepper knows who you are. Yet, she is with you. Consider why that may be. To me, it simply means she is willing to accept the...

You sound about like our quad in relation to where you both live. My husabnd and I live in North Florida and the other half live in South Georgia.

I like that list. Number 7 particularly. It's a philosophy. Gator and I have truly struggled and worked at this. It's been a whole new concept for us though and I feel some of what we've been through is understandable due to that. However, I am amazed at where we are at now. But I don't take...

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I'm a part of a polyfi quad. How we got there or chose to be closed? Well, I'm not sure I can tell you exactly since I'm the only one who didn't think we needed to close things up. I'll admit that it has helped cement the new relationships and made sure there has been plenty of time to work on...

I didn't find this forum early on when I was searching in our relationship but, I have gotten insight here no longer than I've been a member. I did find another forum and blog early on that have greatly helped me. I read several blogs and a couple of forums each day if possible. Spend too much...

I just read this thread...Mono, you are hilarious.