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Update- confused and thinking it's over... Well the weekend Vegas came and went. I had an amazing time. I appreciate everything they did for me but I believe it is truly over. The first day they changed hotels and when we were checking in I stayed back until they were done. We got a suite so...

When starting a poly relationship do you have this conversation or should it just evolve without ever talking about it? When we started they just said no expectations..

It has definitely been hard entering into a poly relationship with a closeted couple. First off I've always been monagamous and straight so it's a very hard concept for me to grasp. For my woman I sent her flowers as a surprise for her birthday to her work and then instantly I regretted thinking...

Fallen Angelina- I guess because it's LDR I have no idea how to date. The good news is that I can leave very easily if I need to. I have a friend who lives in Las Vegas so if being with them is too much for me then I can stay with my friend. I'm hoping that if I just be myself then there will be...

AutumnLeaves-you are very right that I was trying to be someone else for them. I want to be myself. I do have a lot of fears. I am struging with my faith, if this lifestyle is truly for me, and getting over a bad divorce. I enjoy being a girlfriend with the wife. I feel like I can tell her...

Thank you! That gives me hope. I asked them if they wanted me to get my own hotel room but they both said No. We want you to stay with us. But our communication isn't where it used to be. So I guess I'll just have to wait and see. I don't even know if I should flirt with them anymore or just be...

So I'm now at a cross roads. I know that because I worried so much about the relationship that I sucked the fun out of polyamory. Can you get the NRE back after what has happened- (refer to previous posts) or should I just realize that it's over? We have one more set meeting in Las Vegas. We are...

And to all who helped me understand compersion better. They just want me to be happy and however that may be. They do truly care about me. So I'm going to embrace that! I won't be dating not because I can't but because I have decided to find out who I am without a man in my life...

Ofredandblue- First off thank you for your support. After reading what you are going through maybe we can help each other. Are you in the closet with your poly life? My couple is which I think makes it more difficult in an already confusing world for me. I panicked and want to run. I was falling...

Taking a step back After reading everyone's advice and thinking thungs through I made the decision that I felt that I jumped before even knowing what was on the other side. I made things very awkward and uncomfortable because of my inability to communicate wht I was feeling. Some back story my...

Question- Is it normal when in a LDR triad to tell the couple that you are going on a date? Or specifically is it normal for the couple to tell me to have a great time on my date? It actually bothers me. When they ask me if I'm going on a date and they want me to dress up really pretty and they...

Thank you! I will keep you updated. This is the only place that I have to be honest about my relationship. I Like that I can chat with people who have more experience then I do or people going through the same thing.

Thank you everyone! I really started evaluating and took your advice. I definitely was rushing things because I felt for some reason it was different than regular dating. So I told the husband how I was feeling and that I wanted our relationship to grow organically. And that we were dating and...

Fallen Angelina- do you think it's possible that we will ever get past a dating phase given the fact that I live far away. I have no problem staying in the dating phase and yes I guess because of our limited time together we are trying to cram too much too soon. I'm really lost at whether or not...

Well I am home from my weekend. I wish I could say that things went great but that was t the case. The first night we got there the husband and I spent some alone time together. That night he told me to sneak in their bed and cide with them. So after the girls went to sleep I snuck in and it was...

So excited it's time to go see my couple. It's been a month and I'm looking forward to it. Of course there is one catch my daughters come with me. So it's a very different dynamic. But we all enjoy spending time together with their kids. We are having a double birthday party for my daughter and...

I guess because really there is nothing they can do. So I feel like an emotional cry baby. I like to be logical and caring. When I love someone I am very intense and probably a little overwhelming so I'm really trying to tone it down at least I wanted to until they got to know me better..

So my story continues. We are supposed to meet this weekend. Yesterday in my daily life I had a breakdown and ended up crying to them both. Something I'm not comfortable with at all. They were both very supportive and caring. But I know this sounds harsh it kind of upset me because they can't...

Well I told the husband that I felt like very distant from him. So he has started making an effort to text me and get to know me more. And the next time I go out there he wants to have me stay with him in a hotel for the whole night. That way we can spend time connecting with each other. I have...

Thank you! I am not in a rush to do any of those things. Except local dating isn't for me right now. I just don't know how to build a better relationship with the husband if he's not willing to put the effort into it. I mainly concentrate my energy on the wife!! I love her and she makes me feel...