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It's so ironic, isn't it? Writing on this forum was really very helpful to synthesise the things, also all the compassion and understanding which I got here are extremely important for me and make it easier to deal with the whole situation. Reading other threads and resources is also helpful...

Damn, so I decided to talk with #2 and confront him with my doubts and fears. And the result is that I'm totally shocked. He admitted that he lied to me when he told me that was super ok with poly, as what he longs for in a long run is definitely something close to mono, and that he also lied...

Hmmm, he also told me in the last week, when I was having extremely difficult time because of the separaton with 1, that he doesn't perceive me now as his boyfriend, but as someone who needs help but it's fine because it's temporary. And he was super supportive besides that, but this kind of...

Hey, anamikanon, thanks for your opinion, it looks like everyone is saying the same thing which is a very strong wake up call for me. I struggle a lot trying to make a decision, as I developed strong feelings to both guys and I don't want to act impulsively and regret it later. It doesn't look...

Hey Leetah, it's great that you found a way to live together, it has to make things much easier and comfortable for you, and it's amazing that your partners get along! I can imagine that it generates other kind of problems, seems to be very different dynamics then living with just one person...

There is not too much communication between them, there were some attempts to hang out together but it felt rather artificial... They met just once by themselves and actually both said it was nice, but then it wasn't continued. I think that it might be both, if there was no anxiety it would be...

I've had some time to dig a bit in my psyche and I feel like I need to vent it out, hope you don't mind... Discovered that my feelings towards the both boyfriends are totally (but I'm not surprised actually...) monoamorous in their structure, which means that when I think about each of the...

Shaya, I don't know the statistics and it for sure depends on the country, size of the city etc. From what I can see around - the open relationships are slowly becoming a default model of a relationship, but rather in the DADT version than the one based on open communication and honesty...

Hi Kevin, I'm starting to be aware about this option too, but two break ups at the same moment seem to be a mission impossible. For now moving out for a while (still living with the partner 1) to get some distance and be able to think clearly about all the options. Hi Shaya, yes, I'm male and...

I'm extremely grateful for your reactions. Gala, you're right, I'm starting to realize that at some point I closed myself in a loop of taking care only of my partner(s) needs and started to totally ignore myself. I think that it was very important for me to hear it here, as basically all my...

Hey, Shaya, I've been together with my first partner over 6 years, with the second one it's been over a year. No children, and nothing very complicated from the financial point of view... I had been in sexually open relationship with the first partner for about 2 years before I said yes to...

Thanks guys for the replies! The tricky thing is that I'm actualy totally fine about the poly on the purely intelectual level but it apparently doesn't go together with my emotions. I was hoping that there might be a kind of a transitive period after which I would get simply used to it, but it's...

Hey guys, I have probably super atypical problem and I can't see a way out of this without hurting everyone including myself. I hope that someone has a similar experience or could give a good advice at least. The story is that I've been always identifying myself as monogamous, but my partner...