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I don't think that's a problem. I mean, I understand what you're talking about. The problem in this case is that opal hasn't created the necessary understanding either. Relationships are two-way streets and both sides need to meet at a satisfactory middle. This is pretty frank, and not...

It's tough though, I can understand how a teacher can lose patience after dealing with dozens of kids a day after having to deal with my own two kids for a weekend. Oh, I've seen a smattering of that with my son; carrying a Captain America shield everywhere, taking it to school, sleeping with...

That was an intentional tell on my part because some of the people I talk to wouldn't understand (they think it, as London puts it, as pandering) unless I can couch it in a way that captures the problem and solves it. And I figured out maybe a decade ago that a lot of people who struggle...

The funny think about autistm/adhd is that the problems stem from too much, not enough, focus. The hard part is steering said focus. Which is why I brought up video games and role playing games. The secret to winning said games is to ferret out the secret rules the creators set up. Then the...

Unfortunately everyone is unique. This is true for every relationship as well. Autism is a broad term to indicate that the individual either can't or won't conform to social norms. Not that they have a choice, but that their neuronal wiring may actually prevent them from even understanding said...

Except that she is so alien that she decides to leave to associate with other aliens as part of the plot. So many of her behaviors are alien that it doesn't make sense to get hung up on her alien behavior of seeing multiple people at the same time. It's like complaining about an octopus having...

It's pretty easy. He wants to monopolize you. I know that's how I feel about my own wife. It's really not easy to go from the assumption that your life is monopolized to one where it isn't. I'm not judging here, and don't wish to be judged either. Our culture and upbringing assumes...

She can't really be bound by human morals though. She's an alien who happens to speak English.

She probably isn't being honest because she doesn't want to deal with it. To be fair to her, if she really is monoamorous, then she shouldn't be dealing with it. I think she should be treating your excursions as if you were hanging out with friends. Technically, you are, right? You have to...

The article seems relevant to monogamous relationships too. Put another way, a mono relationship is no different than a poly relationship, except there isn't a third or fourth person (yet).

You're right that it's not synonymous, I'm just pointing out it's a possibility. Another possibility is that you can connect with people who are completely incompatible. A quirk of attraction can mean you fall for people who are, for whatever reason, in a self-destructive, self-hating mode of...

But it is :) Some people can do it, others can't. I can probably pull off a dual degree. Another example is having kids. I've seen teachers apparently effortlessly direct 10s of students and get them all acting compliantly for hours with nary a meltdown or a screaming fit, and I struggle to...

Is this a semantic definition of poly vs mono? Where poly means multiple relationships vs single relationships? Why not switch to saying 'best friends' instead? So the original point would be: I can want as many best friends as I can imagine, a best friend on every floor of my building and...

Why is it confusing, though? They just don't identify as poly and use the fact that they don't love often/easily as the justification. What if 'feelings' includes 'sexual attraction'? So that if you don't develop sexual nor emotional attraction to many people, you self identify as mono, and...

Just use the first initial of each name. So far it sounds like Y (You) and S (Spouse) have both cheated, and S is trying to involve N (Neighbor) in a cheating relationship without telling S2 (Spouse 2), meaning that S and N are both willing to lie, neither a healthy practice for a relationship...

Change the context then. "Like I'm just enduring my SO having friends." It's something I'm dealing with too, but really it boils down to this: 1) My wife deserves to have friends and other relationships 2) She gets to decide what that means, be it cuddling and hand holding, or whatnot 3) Her...

It makes sense if you've never had the context of poly, though. If you think of a relationship like moving to a new city, where you have to build a new internal map of the area, create a time-wise map of the traffic patterns, locate new places to eat and shop and hang out, meet new people to do...

I'm not sure what you mean by 'not much luck', but from my continued investigation into the matter, whatever you bring to a monogamous relationship you can also expect to find in a poly relationship, multiplied by the number if interactions (ie, 2 girls, two relationships, plus the fallout of...

My stomach hurts. Two weeks ago my wife decided to stop taking Paxil. It was, we believe, contributing to manic behavior that made it difficult for herself to be in control and hard for me to trust her judgement. She has calmed down considerably and has started to be a lot more present and...

I'm going to disagree. I don't see that longer life leads to more freedom; I think it will lead to more disparity as only the establishment can afford to live longer and continue to repress even inadvertantly everyone else. The complete separation of sex and reproduction, via artificial...