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Oh! I got to meet one of her crushes (she might have more than she lets on, really), D and got to play Go with him. I felt a little sad when she sat next to him and tried to be kittenish with him the entire evening, instead of sitting next to me or favoring him when I tried to form an alliance...

I can see how NRE is creepy from both sides; for the secondary you would feel used, for the primary you would feel fake. I'm a primary and my wife is flush with excitement around D, even though D has turned her down, and I have started playing Go with D. That might in fact turn out to be a bad...

One of the things I am struggling with myself is that even if we did nothing our relationship (me and wife, fidelitous and mono) could end; we can change and grow and need without the addition of others. So take that as the basis, that both of you will have to grow and change as you age, and...

Well, not really. The whole point of this exercise is that I am surrounded by like people on both sides of the fence. I already created an intro, here, but thought it might be more correct to actually write here. Since Please has already gone out on two/three dates, I figure I should fill in...

Still new, and want to start my own blog, but reading your few posts... Are you depressed? Are you being treated for it? You sound like your life (work, dad, self image, love, lover) is totally unbalanced right now and I don't know how you can address one (love and lover) when the others push...

Have you spoken to your husband about time constraints? kdt26417 brings up a good point; love is infinite, but the time in which to express said love is finite. There's a lot of talk about boundaries and agreements; well, one boundary and one agreement you entered into was monogamy and...

He doesn't sound very ethical, I'm not sure what you can do about that since his actions ultimately belong to him. If he isn't by choice ethical, can he be? Have you either read The Ethical Slut? Do you need to be with him? Do you just want to be with him? And, conversely, does he, with you...

Hi, Please! I'm glad you made it. I'm actively reading up on poly, and posting and joining groups, so it's less of "dragged along for the ride" and more "riding shotgun".

I think the difference between breaking a rule, and not, is a phone call. "Hey, we had agreed to X, but now I want to do Y, is that okay?" It's really no different than, "We had agreed to a budget of $10 for lunch per day, but today I felt like having a steak, can I spend $25 instead?" Then...

I understand. I have needs for affection, companionship, and attention, pretty much like everyone does, but want to involve other people expressly so my wife doesn't carry the burden. I mentioned my dad's passing; he was my best friend and I think what I need is another best friend, more than a...

I'm not really an extrovert not a social person, ironically. I'm intensely attached and an introvert, meaning I pick very few close friends and dedicate a lot of attention to them. I don't want to misrepresent the situation. Part of the issue is I/we thought it was supposed to be like this...

This is made harder by the fact that we are raising two kids, and my hobbies aren't very kid friendly; rollerblading and survival-horror video games. I also do photography. The thing is though that I think I do need another relationship because I need people to talk to. I feel so much better...

Yeah, I'm starting to read around the forum, but I also just needed to talk to someone too. I don't feel comfortable bringing this up with friends so I've been feeling isolated. She just kind of dived in and started several months ago under the pretext of going out for drinks with co-workers...

I see your tags indicate jealousy and cheating. I'm assuming this his baby? If so he needs to be helping you and supporting you instead of putting his wants first. If not then he needs to show his commitment to you by being honest instead of hurting you. If he is wonderful, he really isn't...

I'm the husband in a loving relationship. My wife has recently confessed she wants more, a lover, a boyfriend, and a second husband. How is everyone? I'm struggling because, as a man, it is a lot more difficult for me to find other partners than she can, and so have to deal with staying home...