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Thanks for those who are now being kind. I don't expect yesmen. Or to be told I'm 100% correct. Just needed some sympathy. I wish everyone, including the ones who attacked me, well.

Yes, I show love by doing that when I can, but this whole control thing is out of left field. I find the commentary about fantasies very insulting. Which I suppose you feel is ok because of how you've judged me because of the story I've told. There are no fantasies going on. All I want is...

Tough love. I get it. Well, I've come to the realization that I've been lying to myself about needing to get another job. Right now I work 2 days a week for a lawyer who pays me $100 a day. I was also renting out a room in my house, but that's no longer an option with the water. I was kidding...

To your point of me having the car keys...and the financial control.... Again, my bad storytelling and jumping to conclusions. I didn't give her an ultimatum on the way to the meeting. I was home and she came home to spend the night during the period while the guy was visiting. And that's...

See that's where you're not understanding. And you can chalk that up to my bad writing AND people jumping to conclusions. When I was poly...Audrey was too. I wasn't keeping the poly for myself and holding her to a mono standard. Holy hell. If that's the way the story sounded then no wonder...

I hear what you're saying Gala, but when I say enabled...I should have chosen another word. That term has a specific psychological connotation. What I meant to say was that whatever she wanted to do...I supported. She wasn't working. I encouraged her to get a job. She hadn't gotten her GED. I...

Whoa. I left for awhile to clear my head and what a response to come back to. If you think that that I was trying to control her, then either I wrote things poorly or you missed the point of what I was saying. It was never my intention to control her. Nor did I do it in practice. I enabled her...

Wow. It's August 2016. I haven't been back in forever. I came back because my journey with Audrey seems over. We broke up last week and I'm devastated. That's not even the word. Decimated. I should probably go back a bit before this to explain how it happened. Audrey and I started dating not...

Wow. It's August 2016. I haven't been back in forever. I came back because my journey with Audrey seems over. We broke up last week and I'm devastated. I should probably go back a bit before this to explain how it happened. Sometime in 2015 Audrey began talking to a guy from some dating...

Agree wholeheartedly. She says her safeword and he KEEPS GOING for god's sake. Terrible example of the lifestyle.

In my opinion, all that alpha/beta stuff is complete horse hockey. It's definitely horse hockey when it comes to animals. Read: Everything you know about pack theory is wrong. It's not true at all. And with human beings, it's just a douchey way to describe interpersonal relationships. Saying...

To me, Infinity analyzed this amazingly in my estimation. Probably the most important thing to address for you is that you didn't sign up for a poly marriage. You don't have to put up with it just because you love her. No, you can't forcibly change her. But you can set your own limits and see...

I think a mix of Mag's and HappilyFallenAngel's approach sounds good. Yes, you can work around the issue temporarily, but you want to address and fix the problem. Don't see using medicine as a failure. But dont use it as a crutch when there are emotional issues too. Kevin/kdt26417 hit the nail...

Waking up angry. This can be a sign of depression. If you haven't gone to talk to someone about it, you might consider it. Here's why. When you are depressed you tend to cycle intensely through the same problems and same solutions over and over and over. This is part of our evolution built...

Has it really been that long since I've posted something here? I guess I come here to hash out problems and there really haven't been any. Audrey and I are still living in my old home and having a great time. We'd been functionally monogamous, but still reminding each other that we were/are...

It's funny that the implied tone of some of the responses is "how dare you not do things exactly as I do. It's the only honest way!" LMAO. Yes, I live in Alabama, heart of the freaking Bible belt. And just coming out with the fact that you are poly isn't possible. At least not at first. And...

Having been in the lifestyle for over 2 decades, had several long-term functional relationships, and even conducted seminars, I'd agree with opalescent and Alleycat. Is it possible to have entirely asexual BDSM scenes and relationships? Absolutely. Can sex be a primary part of a scene or...

Things are sailing along swimmingly. (Forgive the mixed metaphors ha ha) Last night we went to the store for groceries but decided on having a junk-food extravaganza! 6 different kinds of chips, 3 different kinds of cookies, multiple chip dips, candy of different kinds, various sodas, and 3 or...

I'm still not sure what Billy or Audrey thought the weekend was supposed to be. Did she take one look and lose interest? Did he think there was a possibility of something happening romantically, based on her avowed polyamorism? Did she invite him with the hopes of finding an exciting new friend...

Well chalk that up as a strange weekend. This was one of those events that could have gone entirely differently and in a million different directions, but having gone the way it did all I can do is think back and wonder...huh? To catch you up, Audrey had a someone coming in from out of town...