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I'm sorry I should have added more detail about what meta and I have talked about. He has definitely unprompted expressed to me that he feels like he does way more for her than she reciprocates, that she used to do more but then stopped helping out, that he just does things for her because it's...

I'm honestly at a loss on how to bring it up. I've had two convos with her in the last two weeks that are about things bothering me, and the one that went on yesterday went very poorly. She said I keep accusing her of being selfish, and bringing up this convo will just feed that opinion and not...

Yea that's why I'm taking it seriously now, and want to avert the problem. Before determining she's a lost cause and will treat me that way, I want to give her the chance to make the mature decision to behave differently. I will not be able to tolerate this if done to me and we would end up...

Y'all need to talk about what your relationship means and what level of commitment you can expect. You're conflating the lack of prescribed hierarchy with your general sense of insecurity and uncertainty in your relationship. As others have said, this has nothing to do with hierarchy and...

I live with my gf and meta, and probably the NRE has wore off, because now I'm irritated a lot by my gf. A lot of my irritation comes from watching how she treats my meta. She's just so used to being spoiled and getting all the attention and whatever done for her, that I'm sure she's not really...

Thanks for your reply! I agree with your observations for the most part. Moving in with my gf at all, nevermind only after 6 months, is generally something I would have NEVER done. In this situation, I was staying about half the week with my bf and the other half with her. Eventually I just...

Thanks! That makes a lot of sense. I may mention that to my gf once, and not again. My meta already knows I sympathize with him. Meta and I have then weekend to ourselves, and hopefully when our gf is back she will shower us both with love and affection :)

Issue: I feel like I'm in an awkward position when my gf gives me most of her time and affection because I live with her and my meta, so I can feel the awkward tension in the air. In a V with our gf as the hinge. The three of us are really close; I have an interesting relationship with my...

In terms of lesbian sex, I learned the absolute most from getting involved with an experienced lesbian. Porn helped a little too, but lesbian porn sucks mostly. Are y'all open? Keep exploring with each other, but if you're open and willing, maybe you can each try learning from more experienced...

Wow I never thought of it like that. That his depression is so bad that it's affecting his relationship...and that IS bad enough for therapy. I'm sure he hasn't thought of it that way either. When the time is right, I will slip that drop of gold into a convo. I don't feel compelled to become...

With the appropriate safe guards, is it really so bad if they talk to me about those things? I'm really good at compartmentalizing and I'm my gf's bestfriend, and literally wear different "hats" at different times with her. I definitely see the risk, which is why I keep at a certain distance and...

He experiences short bouts of depression. When his wrist starts hurting it triggers it. He starts feeling bad about himself, his life, and his thoughts spiral him into a depression. Working his job has caused him wrist injury from using the keyboard, and since that is an issue related to his...

Do you think it's really bad if they keep talking to me? I can logically see how it could implode, but it doesn't feel bad doing it. As long as I keel a certain distance it seems okay. I'm a best friend to my gf and tend to wear that hat a lot and certainly when needed. I'm really good at...

Thanks for the response! Yea things are pretty good, I just didn't want to overlook anything. The only time there is a problem is when my meta starts to feel unloved and like our gf is just with him out of comfort. This usually comes up when he's feeling depressed for unrelated reasons. When...

Hey folks, 24f here on the end of a V. I'm asking for advice, red flag spotting, and proactive steps I can take to help our polycule stay strong and healthy. My N turned into a V about a month ago when my ex bf and I broke up. He and I had been together for over 4 yrs. I'm still with my gf of...

So I'm making my way over from the poly Reddit. Seems like a lot more room over here! I'm not exactly new to poly, but I don't have a whole lot of experience. I'm currently in a V, on the end. I live with my gf and meta, and we function a lot as a triad. We're open, and only the meta is...