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Broken trust is painful. I'd totally flip if Spexy tried to get back with the woman he cheated on me with. That said, this is a knee jerk reaction. Enough period has passed and with enough sincerity from Spexy that I believe he values me. Also, if he asked me before ng anything and offered me...

I would dump Matt. If he can get a grip on himself and still wants a relationship, he can choose knowing you are already with Ethan. But frankly, I wouldn't want someone who acted like this back. This is sounding like manipulative behavior. "Want to be seen as accepting of your autonomy without...

Been a while since I was here last. Lot of stuff happened on other fronts, and poly wasn't much on my mind in the sense of anything to discuss. Been chatting with a few men on and off. Had a crazy hormonal episode with a friend I wasn't even attracted to. No real dating or relationships as...

If you can't dump her because of him, dump them. Move on.

Is this because of how he behaves with you or because you imagine "secondary" to be less important? I see two separate things here. One is the level of commitment, practical life arrangements, etc - which he shares more with his primary partner. The other is feelings. There is no rule that says...

So I finally went on a date. Found a man interested in me enough to come and meet me in our area. We met in the evening over tea/coffee sort of thing. Then his phone ran out of battery, so he came over to charge it and download some work emails before leaving. I was .... okay. I liked that this...

If I were to venture a guess, the asexuality and the alexythimia are linked. Sexual blindness seems a logical result of emotional blindness, so to say. That said, who knows. Whether linked or separate and coexisting, I suppose our actual struggle is the same.

I hear you totally Sexyserb, trust me, it is among the things that go through my head all the time. But he is my partner whether we have sex or not. In the sense, I'd never get into another relationship while calling this one platonic in an explanation to my sexual partner. Sex isn't a zero...

She has known you for 10 years. She has had abundant opportunities to get together with you that she and you have passed on including before the BF and when they had opened their relationship. She seems to be tempted by you on the side, but strictly in an unethical manner - she is not opening up...

Reminds me of something I said about not being interested in virgins unless really serious about the relationship, because it is a lot of drama and like a training school. You end up being the punching bag before the boxer gets better at it. You are your partner's first poly partner and are...

I thought you described a situation where you didn't want sex to happen because you were ill and you were pissed off because she initiated anyway?

I had a "commitment ceremony" with my partner. We exchanged rings. Both our close families and friends were present. We also later had a conversation that affirmed our commitment to each other. His parents (who are very traditional) accepted this in the place of a proper marriage and his mother...

My partner cheated on me in spite of us not being monogamous as an important part of forming our relationship. If you think poly can prevent cheating, so you're courting it to avoid hurt, it won't work. Cheating is dishonesty and a person who is ok with it, will not avoid it because you are now...

I think that is their deal with Pip. In that sense, she's their "unicorn" even though she isn't bisexual (or at least claims not to be). So the relationship with Pip appears to be "with both or none", though Pip appears to be more interested in him and more collaborative/competitive with her...

Madmaxx should have been more clear. Allowing her to touch him and not respond upsets both of you. She is used to regularly touching him, so consent may not be something she thought of as necessary in the moment, particularly if he didn't refuse. So she probably felt like a fool when she...

So we worked through that and in December Spexy moved in with me. He seemed uneasy. No action on sex front. He blamed it on the work front being uncertain. Work front got sorted. Brief intimacy followed, then he identified as asexual. Since then, sex has dried up and I am awake in the bedroom...

Jealousy and discomfort about another partner is natural and can be worked with. You don't have to hear about his partners at all, if you don't want to. Him keeping at you about how wonderful she is is inconsiderate behavior with you. And frankly, there are ways and ways of admiring someone...

Am I the only one here getting the feeling that Pip sounds slightly cowgirlish? Or rather, trying to be similar to Belladonna for Madmaxx.... while not being interested in her "that way"... Sounds more like she's in it for Madmaxx and wants what Belladonna has. And oh, she's mono, so probably...

Hope you feel lighter about having got that rant off your chest. It is what it is. If the relationship is stressing you out, bow out. If not, get some popcorn and enjoy the free drama. Don't even bother to try and change anyone other than yourself. Everyone sounds besotted with their fixations...

My problem was that they were looking at photos and not reading the damn profile description or something. Or simply patronizing enough or arrogant enough to think that they were so irresistable that I'd want them even if they were the very opposite of what I was looking for. This is true. And...