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So is he speaking from a "mono" standpoint because he is mono, or just because he has no other frame of reference? How would I tell? It seems like he has some interest in branching out himself and certainly hasn't been monogamous very successfully in the past--there usually ended up being...

I'm worried that last sentence came off wrong...nothing wrong with being mono-minded :D I just am trying to get some insight into whether he can come around to poly or not. My gut feeling is he can because he is fundamentally open, trusting, secure, not jealous, and very supportive of people...

How did you come to poly? Did your husband bring you to it? Does anything about it appeal to you, or are you only doing it as an act of good faith for your marriage?

what to do when partner is supportive of other rlnshp but doesn't "get" poly? So my husband is fine with my pursuing a potential relationship with my other love interest, M. We talked more last night, and he is even fine with me seeing him and spending the night with him (the only real tension...

But to answer the OP...if you know you never want kids (or more kids, whatever the case may be), I'd definitely opt for vasectomy. It's pretty safe and very effective.

Yeah, whenever governments have been in charge of reproduction, it hasn't worked out well. I highly doubt governments would issue licenses to most of the people on this board for example--the mix of queer/poly/just plain unconventional would probably doom us, and I like my little girl so I'm...

Hi! Welcome.

Well, it couldn't last forever, right? :rolleyes: I'm still happy and full of NRE, but doubts are creeping in right now. For one thing, M (my other) said last night, when we were chatting online, that poly "never works." We weren't talking about us, but about some friends of mine who are...

I'm very sorry for the loss of your relationship. Even if it's for the best, it's hard, and you're hurting right now, so I just wanted to offer my condolences. ((hugs))

Yeah, I agree with this. I think you can approach her freely, but it needs to be on poly terms. Even if she wasn't with this guy, she's still poly, and a similar situation would probably come up eventually, right? So getting rid of this guy wouldn't solve anything. In other words, by all means...

LOL After having the talk with DH, and then chatting with M online last night, I really feel like... this is so much better than I ever imagined. The thing I was not expecting was how talking with M and having that would make me more giving and loving with DH. I am better able to engage him...

LOL! Now that's a "Don't Ask, Don't Tell" that I could get behind.

That makes me feel better to know others come to it for that reason. It sort of feels like "fake" poly somehow :confused:

UPDATE! I talked to him and it went...quite well. He wanted to know what it "meant" that I had these feelings, and I was honest and said "I don't really know what I want out of it, but I want to keep talking to M, and I want to be totally honest with you about the fact that we're talking and...

I dug right in on the "New to Polyamory Forum" asking for advice :o But just wanted to introduce myself here as well. I'm 30 years old, married, and bi. What's brought me here, though, is really more an interest in a specific person. I'm married to my husband of almost 6 years, and we have a...

Thanks so much for your reply, vandalin. I know you're right about the honesty factor and that's exactly what I want. I don't want any hiding or lying, I feel so done with that bullshit that I did in past relationships :rolleyes: I never tried to be open/poly in my past relationships, and in...

I sort of can't believe that I'm here, but thank you for letting me be :) I've been married to a great man for the past almost 6 years, and we have a 3 year old daughter together. Our relationship has been monogamous until now. We're in our 30s. When I was younger (high school and college), I...