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A bit of back story - as the signature says, I've been in a relationship with JP for about 2 years now. For these two years, I haven't met anyone that I was interested in dating. As a result, I've spent quite a bit of my time with JP, and by extension with J as well. We've had a few...

It's been a while since I posted - but things have been going great in my relationship with JP and my metamour J. Who posts when things are going swimmingly? :) About a month ago, I reconnected with M thanks to that wonderful invention called Facebook. M and I have history - we were very...

JP and I email/talk daily and have a regularly scheduled date night every Wednesday (subject to change due to work/other scheduling needs). Friday evenings are family dinners with all 3 of us and J's parents. JP and I usually have a sleepover at my place either Friday or Saturday night - at...

Physically we're in a V with JP as the hinge between J, his wife of 13+ years, and myself. Emotionally it's somewhere between a V and a triad. J doesn't express any interest in dating outside of the relationship configuration we currently have - JP says that he couldn't handle another...

Go and meet her - and then you can decide for yourself if she is as great as she seems! My metamour is now one of my best friends and very important in my life outside of her role as JP's wife. I was quite ill a few weeks ago and she had no issue with JP taking me to the doctor and then...

That's what I get for writing when I should be sleeping.. Not his exact words but JP was the one who said something along the lines of 'I do not want two secondaries - so if anything were to come about, they could only be tertiary.' I remember it as being something similar to "J is primary...

I will state for the record that JP and I were originally supposed to be a "FWB" thing at the start before it started to become more "relationship-py" - and I have a horrid aversion to "FWB" due to some really bad experiences in my past where I was really taken advantage of. FWB in general...

I'm sorry that you are hurting. This is a difficult situation but please know that it can get better - just maybe not in the way that you would like or hope for. He may have been caught up in NRE but that is no excuse, in my opinion, to break agreed upon boundaries or to put your health at risk...

It looks like some clarification might be needed. JP and J have always had an open relationship but this is the first poly relationship for all three of us. JP and J have always had "guidelines" in place that they are comfortable with - and that work for them - but this is the first time that...

My relationship with JP has been going quite well - at least as far as I know. :) My friendship with my metamour J has been going fantastic. JP will now occasionally spend the night at my place and when I stay over at their place I sleep with him (they sleep separately) although we don't have...

JP, J and I can walk right by you on the street without you noticing anything out of the ordinary - except maybe that we're geeks. JP is a computer gamer, techie kind of guy and J plays WoW. We all participate in a fantasy combat group as well. Oh, and I have a degree in Accounting and...

I'm ok with being the "mistress" :D The three of us have discussed it and we tend to agree with the definition of it as follows (found on Wikipedia): ...long-term female lover and companion who is not married to her partner; the term is used especially when her partner is married. The...

First, I'd like to make it clear that I'm actually not usually uncomfortable with J's position or find it awkward. I typically look at it as any relationship can end on one person's word - granted, it usually isn't a 3rd person, but still. :) This is a new relationship with a new dynamic -...

Perhaps "veto" is not the best word, but our definition of it is that J can end an outside relationship that JP is involved in at any time. Like I said before, as far as I know all previous "relationships" that JP has had have only been of a sexual nature. We are still figuring out how this...

JP and I became involved while I was living with my former primary partner E. I've posted about the demise of my relationship with E in a few other threads. Without going into too much detail, JP and his wife J have always had a sexually open relationship due in part to a large difference in...

I'd say it's more the first quote than the second. I don't know what I'm going to want to do in 3 months when my birthday will be coming up - but I'm fairly sure that while I may want to have some private time with JP, I will probably also want to have some celebrating time with both of them...

I've been invited to a nice restaurant with JP and J for J's birthday. I'm torn because while we are all great friends and I would love to celebrate her birthday with them, I'm not sure how I'll be when the situation is reversed and it's my birthday (which is just before their anniversary and...

I feel like this is the situation that I'm in right now. My metamour J has always held veto power in her relationship with JP. As far as I know, all of his previous relationships have been FWB at the most. In fact, I think that is what we were originally supposed to be - but it does seem to have...

The Spoon Theory is amazing. I use it all the time to explain how I have to structure my life sometimes.... There are actualy two main kinds of lupus. there is Discoid Lupus which only affects the skin and Systemic Lupus Erythema-something - I can never remember how to spell the last part of...

On a prior thread I asked about the possibility of rebuilding trust - my then live-in partner E actually did post on this forum, but IMHO his post was a load of bull claiming that he didn't understand how to "be" poly. His behavior hasn't changed - he has not sought the help he claimed he was...