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I cannot give an answer to any of these that would fit everyone. My best advice is to talk long and hard with your preexisting partner (or all three if already established a triad) and make your decision. Is it worth it to continue a relationship with the new partner? Is it not? Are these...

Oh wow. Laying on the tough questions now ;) I'll come back to these tomorrow. It's movie watching time for the night and I need to cuddle :)

^ so true

I would say there is a lot of truth in this.

Basically what happened with us. Champ was the hinge of our V and Lovie and I hit it off and decided to give a triad a try.

I can't offer advice on where to find one. We were a V that grew into a triad. But I can offer advice on ways things we have done that have helped us grow and stay together. @kdt26417 - thanks for sharing the link. Please, guys, feel free to ask whatever. We've done things right for us and...

I agree that starting one relationship and seeing if it blooms into both wanting more and then finding another person would probably be the easiest route, though finding three people that are all compatible and want to be romantic with each other is hard. Just think of how many single people...

I can't really say where to start searching from experience but I would say that going to poly friendly or sponsored events might be a good option. Online is always an option too for those inclined. I would think to increase their odds would be to treat everyone with respect and understanding...

If you are interested in a FMF triad only then I would think you would have to either find #1 a bi-female who is compatible with you and is also interested in this possibility. Build a relationship with her and if it is still something you are looking for and she is looking for then decide...

This is going to depend on the relationship. Is it something that everyone wants? Why or why not? What will you (each individual) gain or lose by this? What will each couple gain or lose by this? What will the triad gain or lose by this? We decided that Lovie would move in with us because...

Very true @galagirl - well said

A closed triad can work but only if all members agree to it. It should also be talked about in the beginning of the relationship. I believe that it isn't up to the established couple whether or not the new member can date outside the triad. It either has to be something that each person agrees...

@pink - thank you for sharing your experience. And I totally agree figuring out the root of why you feel for or against something is very important.

I personally don't understand how anyone can think this is ok. I know it happens and it blows my mind. I think people attempt to do this out of fear. For us what works is if the third member isn't home or has expressed no interest in sex that night. It's fair game to pair off with whoever. If...

It was important for us to tell them because we wanted everyone to be invited to family events, etc. But that blew up on one side (unfortunately mine) but it wonderfully worked out with the other two sides so that's a plus.

I think this is the easiest way for an established couple to step into poly, which is why it's so common. If that is how they want to date then that's perfectly fine, but they need to know that it will dramatically decrease their chances of finding a new partner or partners. And I'd also ask...

Giving the nicknames is a good idea and hadn't thought of that. I'll do that. And yes that article is a good one.

@magdyl- no problem at all and thank you for the welcome @bluebird - we have a younger kiddo and with the grandparents not agreeing with our relationship it's something I have to consider and one reason we are thinking of moving to a state that would allow even more protection for us in regards...

You are right. There are non of those that I know of but there are adultery laws. And from what I've read. The spouse that does not initiate the relationship can claim adultery laws broke even if they were involved in the triad. And even though there are no laws preventing polyamory there are no...

We are near nashville. Honestly I have no idea what poly laws are here though I'd assume not good since we are in the heart of the bible belt. We haven't ever been to a poly meet up but there are several near us so support groups are around. Just haven't went yet.