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I've definitely had friends tell me personal stuff that I have never told my fiance. I don't have secrets of my own from him, but I don't consider those things my secrets - they are secrets belonging to my friends that they can choose to share or not. There have been times when he has told...

I think the word just means long term / life long commitments involving multiple people. It seems that a lot of people use it to imply exclusivity (no adding of partners) but I don't think it has to mean that. Regardless of the meaning, people should not be using the word as an insult or...

Why not combine regular sex with the vibrator? Lots of people have to get creative to make it fulfilling for everyone involved, and that's ok. There's no way that you HAVE to have sex.

polyempathy?

Love the bolded part :) RP, I will try to find some examples on here when I have more time. I kinda get that feel from the thread where everyone is listing their orientation though. There may be something regional going on too. From the (few) bisexual people I know here I don't think any of...

Sorry for using the wrong word. So is genderqueer the best word for someone that does not identify with either gender? At least from a science perspective there is a differentiation between sex and gender. Sex is biological and gender is societal. In colloquial speech they are used...

This is interesting to read because I identify as bisexual but could potentially be attracted to transgender people (I haven't really had to make that call in real life, that I know of, but I see no reason to rule it out). I am comfortable with the term bisexual since 1) I won't have to explain...

Yep me too. Especially since I am engaged to a straight male, I feel like I might look like an imposter somehow. And I totally realize that I get some of the "hetero privilege" because unless I say something it looks like I'm straight, which makes me feel like I really am an imposter... sigh.

Gender neutral is not identifying with being male or female, but rather as neither or in between. A person could be biologically female and identify as gender neutral (or as male) for example. I saw this awesome chart once as part of a presentation this awesome speaker did for one of my...

I would advise against doing the picture idea. For a well-established relationship that could be a cute idea for an anniversary present, but in this situation I think it would only serve to push them further away. It does not seem like a friend-present but a romantic-present and it sounds like...

I think the fact that being bi is listed as a choice, as well as the assumption that bi women are better, are insulting. Being bi isn't a choice, just like being gay or straight isn't a choice. My life would be a lot easier in a lot of ways if I was straight (not that I wish I was, but the...

Take a look at the "How do you know you're poly?" thread. I think it will give you some insight on this question. From what I can tell there are: -People that are innately poly and need a poly lifestyle to be happy. -People that are innately poly but do not need a poly lifestyle to be happy...

I think it is very generous for you to be giving them the benefit of the doubt, but it makes me mad on your behalf that two medical workers wouldn't come see you. I worked in a hospital for four years and because of that I would never let anyone I cared about be alone in the hospital. I have...

I guess I'd be about a 3 and a 6. Ooh there could be a grid with mono vs. non-monogamy on one axis and swinger vs. poly on the other...

I'm interested to see the responses to this. It seems that some people identify as 100% poly or 100% mono and are very sure about it, whereas I personally feel like I would LIKE a poly arrangement but don't NEED it to be happy. So I guess my answer to your question is that I don't know really...

ILW2, your experience reminded me of my own recent experience with my fiance and our (now ex) girlfriend. We thought and talked about it a lot and I think one of the reasons was a difference in levels of comfort. When I am with my fiance I am the most able to be vulnerable because I feel safe...

Can he come over to your place for a while, or can the two of you have a day out at the park or something? Even just taking a drive might be good. Have you and Athena spent any time alone together? Right now might not be the best time, but if you two can eventually bond on your own terms, and...

The paraguard IUD does not involve hormones. I've had it for over a year and love it.

I was already thinking "crazy" and then I got to the part about how polyamory creates equal gender roles... and he's saying it as if it's a bad thing. Also I'd love to know why polyamory is expensive - that just made me laugh. Because you are going on more dates?