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Hi, I'm the mono in a mono-poly relationship that quite frankly has been one of the most tramatic experiences of my life. But, about 18 months in, lots of therapy for me, etc, we are at least in a holding pattern. The thing you did right was putting things in hold and letting your partner...

Luckily, we never fully combined bills or the house and we keep separate funds so that part is easy. Unfortunately, I am not in a place financially to file or move out until summer time. We talked Wednesday night and I told him I was done and not willing to go to therapy or work on the...

"It generally feels to me like you think because he is your husband, he has to commit to marriage with you under your terms and if he's unwilling, that makes him a bad and unreliable person." I am apparently supposed to commit to marriage under his terms though? I told him a few weeks into this...

I agreed to friends with benefits. In the past this has been. A casual relationship with semi regular sex. It took us a few years to figure out what worked. He insisted that he would never be in a mono relationship again. So at first it was don't ask don't tell, which made me crazy. Then...

We did have a long engagement. Non monomagamy was his idea and it was about 10 years ago. Our engagement was about two years, we dated for many years before that. My dating life was never serious. It's not what I am interested in. There are friends that I would play with at play parties when we...

My husband has also made statements like, "I'm afraid to end it with Kim because I may not have the opportunity to have a relationship like this again," as well as, "when this fizzels out with Kim I won't pursue a relationship like this again because it is not worth it." So again, in confused...

I didn't go into it in this post because it's in the original one. My husband and I have been non monogamous for a long time. Currently, I am monogamous, basically have been for the last year, for a variety of reasons. . It started as swinging, then he wanted to date and play on his own, then...

Thank you all for your feedback and support. I think I will move into the guest room while I'm off the next few days.

Hello all, It has been a while. My original introduction post is here http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=101302&highlight=bunny784 (I hope I did that right) The short version, my husband met his GF, lets call her Kim, online last February, she lives out of state. He had her...

I am the mono in and mono/poly relationship. I may not be the best person to offer advice, because my marriage is not going so well at the moment, but maybe I can offer some insight from the other side When you are mono and your partner is poly and finds someone else they love, it is pretty...

Podcasts Hi, I am listening to the book you recommended. I have a few recommendations for you as well. The Polyamory weekly podcast has good resources and some good talking points. I have always been a fan of Savage Love, my husband and I used to listen to it together and then we would pause...

Replying to Kevin Hi Kevin, He was having some issues with work when this all started. We had two friends, one only 27, both dying and somewhere between the work thing and the first two deaths he met his GF online. This is not a coping mechanism so much as getting super wrapped up in NRE. He...

Detail Hi, My husband has a girlfriend. In about 5 weeks time, he met her, started talking online every night for hours, and then he flew her to our state, where she stayed at our house for 5 days. I had already planned to be out of town for part of that, but it was hard for me. I have issues...

Hello, I live kind of in the middle of nowhere, North of Los Angeles. My husband and I have had an open relationship for many years, started with don't ask don't tell, moved to swinging and I have now abruptly found myself in a polyamorous relationship, which I am struggling with. Without...