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We honestly should have recognized the red flags this time... we're no stranger to emotional abuse (thank you families...) but we kept explaining things away as something else. Part of the problem was that Nukes didn't want us to tell anyone we know here, so we didn't have anyone to talk to...

Sorry for the long hiatus. Thought I should come back and give an update. I don't know if I'm ever going to be able to get all the details down in writing. At this point I'd just like to move on and leave it as a painful reminder to not let us lose ourselves again. We did move out of Nuke's...

The premise that we all said we didn't personally want to add another to the triad but would be open to discussing that later to make sure everyone was comfortable continuing with such a change? In your other responses you seemed to think the problem was that Mr. Pants and I set rules for Nukes...

nycindie - Are you interpreting "we" as just Mr. Pants and I? When we say "we" discussed something, we do mean all three of us. Mr. Pants and I realize that we have couple's privilege and have tried to keep this in mind when discussing our relationship with each other (all three of us). From the...

Hey, I'm here I promise. I just switched antidepressants on Saturday and in the midst of all this plus adjusting medication (and not being able to get restful sleep) I haven't had the time or energy to hammer out a reply. Even though I've really wanted to. Everything Mr. Pants has said so far...

Hey, welcome! From one newbie to another, lol. I know it means a lot to be able to talk freely with others who are familiar with poly relationships so that you can bounce your thoughts off them without worrying about them judging you or giving advice from a non-poly perspective. We're glad...

Hi Poohbear! My husband (PhysicsIsPants) and I are in a triad with our best friend, and we would both be happy to talk to you, if you'd like. Our girlfriend isn't a forum member at this time, sorry. You can also read our introduction posts (his and mine) if you'd like more detail on how we came...

I can understand why your wife's actions would upset you and damage your trust. I think your feelings are valid. I honestly don't really know how to provide feedback for this because, like you, I am also wary of how well this will pan out given the events you describe here. Poly relationships...

Whew! I am sooooooooo behind on posts. I was out of town from July 1-6 for Vegas with Nukes (OMG so fun!), so I have a bit of catching up to do, clearly... I have not seen a professional for diagnosis. I suspect that I am suffering from anxiety and mild depression, and have been for quote some...

Wow, I'm really late to the replies here. Sorry. :-P -------------------------------------------------------------------------- Spork - We're appreciating the thoughtful replies, no worries about hijacking. :D We like talking to you too! I appreciate the additional info about BDSM/kink. I...

Not prying at all! But without divulging too much identifying information (our third triad member must play things closer to the vest than either PIP or I, and we don't want to accidentally put her in a bad spot)... we moved across our state from a metroplex-type area to a large but very...

Me too, thanks. I hope I'll find a better one soon. Wish we had a Planned Parenthood in my city, they always treated me exceptionally well and with respect before I moved away.

No one's looked into my thyroid. No one's looked into anything, really, and they don't seem to want to. Two years ago I had to argue about getting my hormones tested because they refused to do it. They came back normal but then my OBGYN said I might have PCOS anyway, which was confusing because...

This is always hard to explain to others, and I'm never sure we have the same concept in mind by the end of it, lol. :p It's sensual in the context of being in physical contact with someone else. I want to hold hands, cuddle, stroke, etc. but don't have any sort of sexual attraction or desire to...

Hi Kevin - I guess I would be willing to consider it; however, the way my asexuality intersects with my libido makes it very hard to convey to most people how the typical "solutions" don't make sense for me. I also have some anxiety issues that make it very hard for me to seek out doctors and...

I think I remember reading an Oh Joy Sex Toy! comic about the Lelo in comparison to the Hitachi! That pinching from the Hitachi sounds painful. :eek:

Hello there - nice to meet you! Sorry to hear about the unreciprocated situation you have there... bummer. I also joined so that I can enjoy a community and meet people who I can talk to about our nontraditional relationship (and theirs). I'm usually a lurker but I'm going to try to actually...

Spork - fair enough! I didn't know if you had seen mine or not, which is why I chimed in over there. I did update my reply on his thread, too. I see where you're coming from. In my case, I doubt that new sexual partners for me will do much for my libido long-term. My doctors have not been...

Thanks for the suggestion. I looked at the 1-star reviews and it sounds like I will love this book. I feel like I can tell a lot about the content of the book by looking at what people are upset about... and the things those one-star reviewers hated are things that I would be favorable towards...

Hey there, Spork! This is the wife. :) I'll edit this later tonight to add my two cents, but I thought some of your questions might be answered by my intro thread. I'll be back tonight to add more! Edited to add: Yeah, birth control was definitely a problem before. I had a libido on the lower...